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post #21 of 28
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Originally Posted by RobertPoste'schild View Post

I was at the store today for a good chunk of time (about an hour). For about 45 minutes of that hour, I endured the screams of a child that didn't want to stay in the cart.

I assumed you meant the grocery store because that's what most people I know mean when they say they are going/went to "the store". Sorry to read something into that. Being that it wasn't a store for necessities, then I think the woman should have left after 5-10 minutes if she couldn't calm down her child.
post #22 of 28
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Originally Posted by RobertPoste'schild View Post

The whole thing of, "if you don't like it you can leave" just permeates with such a sense of entitlement. Give me a break.

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Originally Posted by Cookie2 View Post

I agree with you. The sense of entitlement to wander around a store - any store - while your child is acting like a brat IS out of hand. I think this is the same attitude that causes people to show up at special occasions without bothering to dress up.
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Once again.....I agree!!
post #23 of 28
A craft store! I assumed a grocery store as well. No, I would just leave. For either of my children to be acting that way something would be wrong with them and they would need to be at home. Not to mention it's not really fair to the other customers or employees in the store. Most people are pretty understanding but everyone has their limits and 45 minutes would probably be that.
post #24 of 28
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Originally Posted by melsb View Post

A craft store! I assumed a grocery store as well. No, I would just leave. For either of my children to be acting that way something would be wrong with them and they would need to be at home. Not to mention it's not really fair to the other customers or employees in the store. Most people are pretty understanding but everyone has their limits and 45 minutes would probably be that.

LOL I though it was the grocery store too... nothing that you desperatley NEED in a craft store, is there....
post #25 of 28
Ummmm....nowhere was there an accusation of you of throwing dirty looks, and I'm sorry you felt that was directed at you. However, I have witnessed that happening, along with people saying nasty things directly to the parent making the parents more embarrassed. I know you also didn't do that.
All I was saying was "can you imagine how she feels?"

And I taught my son to not do that, quite successfully. However, there's no teaching my daughter! Some kids are just too headstrong!

The thing that amazes me is that you often see that the kid is hungry, tired or sick, which is why they are wailing. I want to say give them something, let them carry something, to entertain themselves. Go home and let them rest - they feel terrible.




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Originally Posted by RobertPoste'schild View Post

Sorry I didn't get back until now, I meant to pop in here but it didn't happen yesterday. For the record, no where in my post did I say that I threw them a dirty look or or Didn't say, "We've all been there". I DID say that, after the first 10 minutes. When it was still going on a half an hour later, I was like to myself.

To clear up another point, she was in a craft store, NOT a grocery store. I don't in any way feel that I let my ds rule me when I, the rare times that it was, that I left somewhere because of ds behaviour. Quite the opposite. If anything, ds would have much rather been bopping around with me shopping then staying home, so getting up to go would never have meant giving in to me OR ds.

Somehow, through the magic of the internet, my post went from being in a Store, to a grocery store, to me to her face criticizing her and throwing her dirty looks! I said and did none of those things! Sorry this hit on some nerves, and of course there are two sides to every story. The whole thing of, "if you don't like it you can leave" just permeates with such a sense of entitlement. Give me a break.
post #26 of 28
God blessed me with 5 incredibly well behaved children and I admit I was very judgemental of other parents whose children through tantrums in public. Then came Brady and I had to eat major crow. We adopted Brady at 23 months and he had been bounced around quite a bit when he was placed with us. It's been an uphill battle with him and the slightest thing can send him right over the edge. I don't think I would make anyone endure 45 minutes of his crying-especially not someplace like a craft store-but I am definitely more tolerant of other mothers with children who are tantruming now that I have been in their shoes.
post #27 of 28
Nevermind.
post #28 of 28
What is strange to me is how LONG the child was crying. That doesn't seem normal to me. I never left when my child was misbehaving or crying. Of course, he loved shopping. Of course, I always gave him things to hold and snacks.
However.... When he was a few months old, he would always cry in the car. It would make me want to have a breakdown! Most kids love the car...It was because he was backward facing and looking at the ceiling. The same thing with the grocery, he hated looking at the ceiling. Once he could sit in the front of the buggy, he loved shopping.
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