My 3 year old was invited to a friend's house - a boy in his preschool class - to come for lunch and a playdate today. The mom and I know each other casually from school but she works and honestly I know her nanny better than I know her. 
So she emailed me over the weekend to set this up. Playdates are a new thing for my ds and he was looking forward to it. This was the first time I had been in their multimillion dollar home and it was lovely. So we get there and the nanny is there and so is the mom which I thought was a little odd but whatever. The nanny takes the boys outside to play and I told the mom I would be back at 1 to pick up ds. She said great. I come back at 1 like I said I would, nobody answered the doorbell, so I walked around back and the mom is sitting on the deck with another glamorous mom (both are all dressed in their mommy finest - designer jeans, slinky tops, lots of jewelry, and heels, even though the first mom was in a t shirt and yoga pants when I dropped off ds at 11). They have a fancy grown up lunch spread in front of them and they are eating and having wine while the nanny is playing with the boys way out in the back 40. The other mom had a little boy out there playing with them too.
It was so awkward! I totally interrupted their lunch and they left their plates to get up and talk to me for a minute. Luckily my ds saw me and came running up and was ready to go home. I felt so frumpy standing there in my jeans, t shirt, and clogs trying to make conversation with them while they held their wine glasses.
I'm really just venting - not expecting any advice here - I just thought it was odd that she was lunching with another mom and didn't ask me to join them or at least wait to serve her friend until after I left with my kid. She never mentioned another boy would be over when we were setting up the playdate. I hope they don't invite us back.
So she emailed me over the weekend to set this up. Playdates are a new thing for my ds and he was looking forward to it. This was the first time I had been in their multimillion dollar home and it was lovely. So we get there and the nanny is there and so is the mom which I thought was a little odd but whatever. The nanny takes the boys outside to play and I told the mom I would be back at 1 to pick up ds. She said great. I come back at 1 like I said I would, nobody answered the doorbell, so I walked around back and the mom is sitting on the deck with another glamorous mom (both are all dressed in their mommy finest - designer jeans, slinky tops, lots of jewelry, and heels, even though the first mom was in a t shirt and yoga pants when I dropped off ds at 11). They have a fancy grown up lunch spread in front of them and they are eating and having wine while the nanny is playing with the boys way out in the back 40. The other mom had a little boy out there playing with them too.It was so awkward! I totally interrupted their lunch and they left their plates to get up and talk to me for a minute. Luckily my ds saw me and came running up and was ready to go home. I felt so frumpy standing there in my jeans, t shirt, and clogs trying to make conversation with them while they held their wine glasses.
I'm really just venting - not expecting any advice here - I just thought it was odd that she was lunching with another mom and didn't ask me to join them or at least wait to serve her friend until after I left with my kid. She never mentioned another boy would be over when we were setting up the playdate. I hope they don't invite us back.
I would find it odd if the parent didn't stay. I guess where I'm from the parents stay and hang out.
