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Am I bad Mother for Refusing to Wipe my 6 year old?

post #1 of 15
8/26/09 at 5:17am
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Haha, maybe an odd post? My 6 year old is in 1st grade and for some odd reason think I should wipe her after a BM? When she was 5 she started doing it herself... I was working, DH was with them and she did it. Then I would come home and all of a sudden she was helpless!

She is 6... she can do it. When she yells for me from the bathroom, I tell her to do it and wash her hands. I still feel bad. It is just that I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old that I am wiping already... and she is in school and probably should be doing this on her own by now? this is my oldest so.. i am at a loss
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post #2 of 15
8/26/09 at 5:20am
At 6, she should be wiping her own bum.
She's probably just feeling a little jealous because you're doing it for the younger ones.
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post #3 of 15
8/26/09 at 5:32am
No, it's good that you are making her do it. I used to buy those flushable wet wipes and leave them on the back of the toilet until she got better at wiping herself up. Stay firm, it's the only way she's going to learn.
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post #4 of 15
8/26/09 at 6:36am
No, and you should stay strong about refusing. I'm actually shocked at how long some of my friends continued to wipe their kids. I think I stopped doing it when they started using the potty (around age 3). If you never do it, they learn to do it themselves.
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post #5 of 15
8/26/09 at 6:39am
No, you are not a bad mother. No one is going to wipe her bum at school for her so why should you do it at home.
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post #6 of 15
8/26/09 at 7:02am
My first grade ds asks occasionally. I never out right say No when they ask for help. But I don't wipe him. When he asks I ask him why he needs help. He will usually say I can't get it. So then I hand him a wipey.And say try this, and he is fine with that, I don't do it for him.But I don't want him with a sore hiney and feeling uncomfortable.
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post #7 of 15
8/26/09 at 7:43am
Good for you, they should be doing it themselves at 6. I was out of town with SIL one time and her teenage son called to say her 5-yo needed her to come wipe him. We were 5 hours away!
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post #8 of 15
8/26/09 at 9:20am
I started making mine do it the summer before she started Kindergarten. I told her she would have to do it herself at school. We also have potty wipes which make it a lot easier for them.
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post #9 of 15
8/26/09 at 10:20am
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Originally Posted by mommy&wifeisme View Post

My first grade ds asks occasionally. I never out right say No when they ask for help. But I don't wipe him. When he asks I ask him why he needs help. He will usually say I can't get it. So then I hand him a wipey.And say try this, and he is fine with that, I don't do it for him.But I don't want him with a sore hiney and feeling uncomfortable.


My daughter ONLY wanted to do it, NO HELP, and for a long time she wasn't 'that great' at it. So we made the deal that during the day I didn't but she knew once at nighttime, I HAD to 'check' and we went with that for a few months.
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post #10 of 15
8/26/09 at 3:56pm
No, your a GOOD mother for making her learn to do it herself! We have a 1st grader at our school who complains every day that his bum hurts and he has to go to the nurse during lunch - I know it's because he isn't doing a good job wiping. I think all kids should know how to wipe themselves before starting school.
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