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post #1 of 11
11/5/09 at 10:25am
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Do you usually invite other children from the classroom to your childs birthday party?

We have a rule at our school "You invite all or none". I understand why this rule is in place, but both of my kids only want to invite 1 or 2 kids.

They would be in school all day with their friends and I will take cupcakes up to the school.

What do you do? Do you invite all, just a select few, or do your own family thing? I have noticed that only 2-3 kids come to each of everyone else's parties.
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post #2 of 11
11/5/09 at 10:56am
I think, especially in the economy, smaller parties are becoming the norm, which is a good thing IMHO! I send in a treat to the whole class on my child's bday (be aware of allergies, tho!), then have a select few over for the real party. It all depends on the ages of your kids. If mine were young enough, I would still keep it to a family only party. Perhaps you can just call over the few friends you'd like to invite and keep it on the down low? Good luck , kids parties can really get stressful!
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post #3 of 11
11/5/09 at 11:03am
I'd invite who you want and that's that!!! Frankly I don't care what the school stays...I will NOT be forced to invite 18+ kids to a party just so my son can have a few of his close friends there.
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post #4 of 11
11/5/09 at 11:11am
Do you usually invite other children from the classroom to your childs birthday party? My kids are older, but when they were smaller, yes, we often invited the whole class or all the boys.

We have a rule at our school "You invite all or none". Yes, we had a similar rule at every school we've attended. Although the rule at our schools hasn't been that you have to invite all the kids or none, it's just that if you're NOT going to invite all, please send the invites in the regular mail or give them out off of school grounds. The school can't dictate you give the invitations to, but I think it's only polite, if you're not inviting all the kids (or all the children of one sex) to try to do it outside of school. I do that in real life as an adult. I typically mail paper invitations to parties. If it was a word of mouth thing though, I wouldn't say, for example at my book club meeting, invite 3 people in front of the other 12.

When my kids were smaller, we often had a family party and then a school friend party.
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post #5 of 11
11/5/09 at 11:19am
We couldn't fit the whole class in our house. That would be a nightmare.

No. My kids get to invite 5 kids if it's a regular party. 3 if it's a sleepover. We mail the invitations so there are no hurt feelings.
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post #6 of 11
11/5/09 at 11:19am
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Originally Posted by Oregano View Post

Do you usually invite other children from the classroom to your childs birthday party? My kids are older, but when they were smaller, yes, we often invited the whole class or all the boys.

We have a rule at our school "You invite all or none". Yes, we had a similar rule at every school we've attended. Although the rule at our schools hasn't been that you have to invite all the kids or none, it's just that if you're NOT going to invite all, please send the invites in the regular mail or give them out off of school grounds. The school can't dictate you give the invitations to, but I think it's only polite, if you're not inviting all the kids (or all the children of one sex) to try to do it outside of school. I do that in real life as an adult. I typically mail paper invitations to parties. If it was a word of mouth thing though, I wouldn't say, for example at my book club meeting, invite 3 people in front of the other 12.

When my kids were smaller, we often had a family party and then a school friend party.


I totally agree with you! This is how I do it too!
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post #7 of 11
11/5/09 at 2:40pm
The all or none theory is a bit ridiculous in my opinion, but invites should not be handed out at school either. I have always mailed them out.
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post #8 of 11
11/6/09 at 11:31am
dd (6) was invited to several parties when she was in preschool. I think they invited everyone. Now that she is in Elementary school, she has only been invited to one party. I assume they are only inviting a few.

Today is my 4yr old's birthday. She didn't express any interest in a birthday party so we're taking the two girls to Chuck-e-Cheese after school today. I spent a little more on presents since we didn't have an extra party expense. We did homemade cupcakes.

My 6yr old had a family party last year and this year we're planning on doing a party at Pump-it-Up. We're doing the Crazy 8 party during the week so she'll only be able to invite 6 children.

I would do whatever works for your family!
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post #9 of 11
11/6/09 at 2:01pm
A school can not dictate what you do in your home and outside of the school. Im surprised nobody has challenged that rule and have them get rid of it.
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post #10 of 11
11/6/09 at 2:57pm
Maybe there is some misunderstanding. Every school I know of has a rule that if you hand out invites in class it has to be for all,,, but they don't dictate what you can/cannot do out of school
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