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Who paid for your wedding?

Poll Results: Who paid for your (first) wedding?

 
  • 44% (37)
    You and your dh
  • 25% (21)
    Parents (his or yours)
  • 27% (23)
    Combo of you, him and parents
  • 2% (2)
    Other
83 Total Votes  
post #1 of 37
11/20/09 at 6:21pm
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Who paid for your wedding? If you've been married more than once, count the first time.

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post #2 of 37
11/20/09 at 6:27pm
We did. Inlaws did rehearsal dinner, and my parents gave me about $500 I think which I'm sure was generous for them, but it really only paid for my veil if I remember.

We were older and both working when we got married and didn't charge any of it. We paid for my dress, minister, vocalist and organist, flowers, photography, reception site, the band for reception, food, drinks including alcohol, honeymoon, invitations, etc.

But my DH and I each made more money than our parents, much less together, so I'd have felt bad expecting them to pay for some fancy-schmancy wedding that we chose to have. We never expected them to pay and it was never even discussed.
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post #3 of 37
11/20/09 at 7:09pm
This is one of my favorite stories to tell!

My DH and I planned our wedding and kept it small (and affordable) but still very nice, planning on paying for everything ourselves. We saved money on the flowers, my dress, and pretty much everything, so we could splurge on the food at the reception since that was something our guests could enjoy (who really remembers the flowers at a wedding, right?). Well, when we went to pay the balance for the reception that night, we found out my dad had already taken care of it as our wedding gift. We still joke that if he had clued us in we would have had lobster on the menu, too! He said he felt comfortable doing it for us since he knew we had carefully budgeted since we thought we were paying for it.

It was such a blessing, too, because we ended up moving out of state 6 months later and we were able to use the money we saved on the wedding to put toward moving expenses.
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post #4 of 37
11/20/09 at 7:14pm
We did, every time.

I would not have a wedding I couldn't afford to pay cash for.

Each time, we kept it small, either bought clothing off the rack that could be worn again or used clothing we already had.

Rehearsal consisted of us meeting with the minister the first two times and giving him a copy of the vows we had written - no dinner. Since Himself and I conducted our own ritual, there was no rehearsal at all.

Receptions were simple - finger foods, soft drinks, beer, wine, and a few bottles of champagne. No caterers, no ice sculptures, no trinkets for guests to take home and stick in a drawer.

We figured that there was no point in spending thousands of dollars that we didn't have for a ritual that would last an hour and a party that would last a few hours after that.

We wanted the ceremony to be a meaningful spiritual experience, not a fashion show.
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post #5 of 37
11/20/09 at 7:15pm
We did, we were young(20), in the Army and had no money. We got married at a courthouse in AZ while stationed there, our family wasn't even there. I found a white prom dress on clearance for $25, my dh and all our Army friends wore the dress uniform. We went to city hall, I can't remember how much the license cost, probalby around another $20. I got a cake from the grocery store and some cheap bride and groom wine glasses. All in all we didn't spend more than $100 for our wedding. We went out to dinner with some of our closest friends at our favorite restaurant and all our friends paid for their own meals, then we had a party back at our apartment. I've never been a big fancy wedding kind of girl, I'm way too realistic and wasn't willing to go into debt for something like that. I wanted to get married in Vegas or a Hot Air Balloon, but it wasn't the right time of year for that and we didn't have leave (army time off) so we couldn't go to Vegas.
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post #6 of 37
11/20/09 at 7:43pm
Dh and I did. It cost us $65 for the ceremony! I bought a new dress for $15 and we got some flowers for around $30. My MIL did buy us supper after though. I could never bring myself to have a big expensive wedding (though mine was 25 years ago). It just seem like a huge waste to a practical person like me.
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post #7 of 37
11/20/09 at 7:50pm
Our wedding was spread out - mom paid for reception, brother had a friend who was a photographer (so we got a deal) plus the photography was a gift from big bro, dh paid for anything related to the church, mom-in-law paid for rehearsal dinner and I paid for my dress and any little extras (which can add up fast). It was not possible to keep the wedding small - dh is youngest of 7 = all married w/families + my family (which is small by comparrison). We had a beautiful - but simple wedding. Had a year to plan - so was able to shop for deals and best prices. One nice savings deal - used my mom's guest sign in book from her wedding to my dad - what a keepsake and money saver. It is interesting to see my aunts and uncles signatures as guests at both weddings.
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post #8 of 37
11/20/09 at 8:03pm
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Originally Posted by stacia View Post

We did, we were young(20), in the Army and had no money. We got married at a courthouse in AZ while stationed there, our family wasn't even there. I found a white prom dress on clearance for $25, my dh and all our Army friends wore the dress uniform. We went to city hall, I can't remember how much the license cost, probalby around another $20. I got a cake from the grocery store and some cheap bride and groom wine glasses. All in all we didn't spend more than $100 for our wedding. We went out to dinner with some of our closest friends at our favorite restaurant and all our friends paid for their own meals, then we had a party back at our apartment. I've never been a big fancy wedding kind of girl, I'm way too realistic and wasn't willing to go into debt for something like that. I wanted to get married in Vegas or a Hot Air Balloon, but it wasn't the right time of year for that and we didn't have leave (army time off) so we couldn't go to Vegas.

you could do a vow renewal in Vegas or a hot air balloon
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post #9 of 37
11/20/09 at 8:14pm
My parents paid. We didn't want a wedding (don't like attention and didn't want to spend the money), the Mom's did, so we told them to pay for it.... and they did.
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post #10 of 37
11/21/09 at 4:49am
we did...98% of it.

we did justice of the peace, went to a restaurant with everyone invited( all you can eat buffet style). the restaurant paid for first round of drinks and gave us a discount on the food. we supplied the cake, flowers etc.. everyone took pictures with their cameras and i bought all the negatives from everyone and had the pictures done.dh wore a suit and i bought a two piece skirt and lace jacket combo( on sale of course). we did not have a dance afterwards.

parents split the bill on drinks for everyone.

its the way we wanted it and it was under $800 for it all too ( 18 people invited).
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