You know, I don't know if the teacher's in our district would even be allowed to send a note home, due to confidentiality of the family. I know they discussed it in class, probably in an informal situation, but can you imagine how angry the family of little girl could have been?
Don't get me wrong, I see how you would want to know what was discussed with your child ... I just don't see how the teacher could have officially sent a note home.
Maybe I will ask DD's kindergarten teacher what she would do ... she probably already thinks I'm a little on the nutty side anyway.