Originally Posted by lovindj25
**if this is in the wrong area, sorry!!! single/divorced parents/anyone who wants to comment**
if the other parent was taking care of your child, which you thought he/she was in her/his care, but you later found out that the child was somewhere else and you were not informed, would you be mad?
I have been in this situation and was angry about it. When I have to work late or want to do something when my DS will be with me, the first person I contact is DS dad to see if he can watch him. I think that it is the best for DS if he is with one of his parents first.
I do NOT always let former DH know who specifically will be watching DS if he is not available but ex DH knows that I am a RESPONSIBLE person and trusts MY judgement regarding who should take care of DS. On the other hand, I do NOT trust ex DH judgement on anything so if DS is in his care, I expect him to be in HIS care, not someone else's. I also would like to know how to get ahold of DS at all times and if he is somewhere I don't know about then I cannot get ahold of him. Luckily, this has only happened a couple of times for me and both times it ended up DS was with his grandparents - who I do trust - I just didn't know ex DH would be farming out his limited time with DS so was upset about that.
If I felt my DS was in danger with other people, I would say something to ex DH but I certainly have NO control over what happens when DS is with him so all I can do is give my opinion and hope dad will listen to that and take it to heart.