Originally Posted by KathrynHannah
I also found it really deepened our marriage and made it so much stronger.
The stress evaporated and I no longer felt deprived.
My marriage felt stronger than it ever had, and I had a new sense of purpose rather than the feelings of failure that debt brought with it.
Yes, this is SO true!!! DH and I are finally, truly "on the same page." He has always been the saver, and I know it just hurt him (like a gut-wrenching, agonizing ACHE) when I spent our money like it was growing on trees! I NEVER looked at prices! He would scan my receipts when I came home and it would drive me NUTS ((I now scan all receipts, btw) or he would ask me, "How much did that cost?" I would have NO CLUE what anything cost and deeply resent his asking me! I know that sounds crazy, but I was just lost in the world of shopping and spending and hated anyone who was going to ruin my party. It's like someone asking an alcoholic, "How many beers have you had??" They would get defensive. That was me with spending.
Now I feel like we are finally looking in the same direction, working together like a team, as we should be. There has always been a tension in our marriage because of my spending. He was patient with me and never yelled or got angry... but he was exasperated and would subtly suggest I watch the spending. But I never did.