Please send my hubby back to work

 

My dh will do this often.  He will be having a problem with something and will become grumpy and angry.  I have accepted that this is how he deals with it and as long as he isn't directing at me, I leave him alone.  If it is directed at me, I will tell him to not take it out me and to find another way to get over it.  You do need to stick up for yourself so that it doesn't continue.

 

So when he complains about the laundry, hand over the basket and the detergent and tell him to enjoy his time cleaning it the way he prefers.

Mine does the same thing! Got in a big arguement Christmas Eve because of his mood, then he told me he hated my job because it costs us so much in car repairs all the time. Yet i know if i quit, he's have a fit about that too!

ugh - I agree with diane - as long as he is directing his attitude at me I usually go into another room.  When he continues or if I feel its directed to me I ask him in my nicest voice "Why are you directing you hostility towards me?"  I think he is shocked back into reality cause usually this ends his attitude altogether and within a few minutes he is apologizing to everyone for being grumpy.

For example this morning he was trying to get ready for work and his "favorite pants" (the only ones I guess that are not snug) were not washed as he wore them yesterday and my laundry was up to date so basically it was just his outfit that he came home with (not enough for a load).  So I hear him complaining about (you'll love this) my delicious dinner/dessert last night making his clothes not fitting him!!!! I was "sleeping" but couldn't help from laughing but did not even say one word.  About 20 minutes after he leaves I get a phone call...."did I wake you?  I'm sorry I'm crabby and can't get into my pants!!! Can you help me loose some weight for the new year?" 

Seriously I do not understand why men act like this and why women put up with it. Grow up and direct your anger at what you are really upset about and display that anger like an adult who is capable of controlling their emotions.

 

Show him how the washer and dryer work and tell him to wash his own clothes. 

Actually, I love having hubby home and, sadly, I'm the grumpy one. We're looking for a house and I'm just stressed until this process is over.

 

My hubby's moody moment came yesterday. We usually get up at 4am and he is out of the house by 5am. The dog gets to go outside at that house as his first potty break of the day (we live in an apartment). Yesterday we woke up really late. The dog immediately wanted to start playing. Well, the dog plays ball for a while then suddenly the need to pee comes over him and he starts peeing right on the carpet. Well duh! He hasn't be outside yet (plus he is an old dog). Poor thing. Hubby got all mad at him and made him stay out on the patio (which is a huge punishment to this dog). Well, it really was our fault. We knew the dog hadn't been outside for hours. I probably would have peed on the floor, too.

 

I should add that your husband sounds like my ex. Gets mad, lets it build and explodes over something stupid that is not the reason for the anger. And it's never his fault.

 

His temper is one of the reasons I divorced him. You don't get to use foul language and throw things at me. Not behavior I wanted my girls to think is an acceptable way for a man to treat a woman. 

 

I have a friend whose husband complained about the way she was keeping house and doing his laundry. So she went on strike. She didn't clean the house and disn't wash his clothes. He soon apologized for his attitude. 

My husband is usually well behaved but I admit, with his recent knee surgery, we hit some bumps. I did cut him some slack, due to his surgery, but I also came to the conclusion that if this was how he regulary acted, that there is no way I would stay and put myself or my children through self behavior. Life is too short to be this unhappy. Luckily for me, mine is getting better.

I'm with Cookie....I LOVE having my DH home.   Now luckily I'm not one of those women who cares if their DH is productive every minute of the day so he spends a lot of time on the couch watching TV.   But he runs errands for me and does the laundry (he always does more laundry than me) and makes coffee and breakfast in the morning.   So other than the TV on all day (normally it's never on till he gets home and turns it on....he's a TV addict) it's all good!!