I know this sounds strange, but because I have a large number of kids, through the years, people assume I don't mind extras being around because what difference does one more make? As an at home mom, it wasn't a huge deal, but now that I work fulltime, my weekends and evenings are slap full of spending time with my OWN kids...and catching up on my OWN stuff. I don't mind occasionally helping out, and I don't mind the kids having a friend or two come over....but I DO mind if it becomes a "Oh let's ask Jennifer because SHE is always a sucker...with so many kids, she will never notice our two (or ten)", ya know?
Case in point is that a friend mentioned last week needing an all weekend helper for their two year old. I skirted the issue, NEVER saying yes. I already get suckered into helping out most Mondays with the same child, who is a HANDFUL. I get a phone call today saying that they will be dropping off the 2 year old at her grandmother's house because the bus (it's some tournament) will be leaving before I get off, and would I please swing by there to get her? Um...I never agreed to this, darnit!!! But in that the son this tournament is for is SO excited for some one on one time and was told I was keeping his sister...I feel kind of stuck. It is my weekend without my own kids. I have a girls night out planned tonight with a group of ladies I am trying to "fit in" with, two basketball games with my own kids tomorrow (even though they are with their dad, I will still go!), and a house to clean. Ugh. I have GOT to figure out how to make people understand that mom of six is mom to MY six, not yours, too!!!