Oh no, I wish I had known, I'm so sorry to read this! How far along were you? (if you don't mind)
I found out I had a missed miscarriage July 24, 2008 (that date is seared in my brain). I thought I was about 8 1/2 weeks along, went for an ultrasound and there was nothing there. It was a blighted ovum, so i had a D&C because my body was not getting the natural signals and I wanted it over.
It was very, very hard for me. We already were having a hard time getting pregnant (we had tried for almost a year) and then this. It really hit me about a month later and I was very depressed for a few months. I just felt like I couldn't trust my body anymore and wondered what I had done to cause it.
I ended up pregnant again about 10 months later and that pregnancy was crazy emotional. I was so scared, I always said "If this baby is born" instead of "When this baby is born" up until I gave birth. Everything worried me and my poor dh was a stressed out mess trying to keep it together for me. He didn't admit it until after dd was born that a weight had finally been lifted and he felt like he could breathe again.
Miscarriage and Birth Loss needs to be talked about. Women think they are the only ones feeling those emotions and that they are going crazy, but it's so common. I frequently read a Pregnancy and Birth Loss section on another forum, and then their Pregnancy After Birth Loss after I got pregnant again, and it really helped me to see that everything I was feeling was completely normal. It's okay to feel all over the place.
Hugs and lots of sticky baby vibes your way.