Have you ever miscarried?

I haven't.  But, when people originally learned that we were adopting, they assumed we had some sort of fertility issue(s).  So many women would just come up to me and discuss the problems they had had conceiving and/or carrying full-term. 

I am so sorry you did not have this type of support.  There is nothing more valuable when walking a road, than having someone come along side you who has already walked it.

I didn't know I was pregnant until I miscarried. At the time, having children was not something I had ever considered. I don't think it really affected me the way it affects women who do want the baby. Sometimes I even forget that it happened.

Oh no, I wish I had known, I'm so sorry to read this! How far along were you? (if you don't mind)

I found out I had a missed miscarriage July 24, 2008 (that date is seared in my brain). I thought I was about 8 1/2 weeks along, went for an ultrasound and there was nothing there. It was a blighted ovum, so i had a D&C because my body was not getting the natural signals and I wanted it over.

It was very, very hard for me.  We already were having a hard time getting pregnant (we had tried for almost a year) and then this. It really hit me about a month later and I was very depressed for a few months. I just felt like I couldn't trust my body anymore and wondered what I had done to cause it.

I ended up pregnant again about 10 months later and that pregnancy was crazy emotional. I was so scared, I always said "If this baby is born" instead of "When this baby is born" up until I gave birth. Everything worried me and my poor dh was a stressed out mess trying to keep it together for me. He didn't admit it until after dd was born that a weight had finally been lifted and he felt like he could breathe again.  

Miscarriage and Birth Loss needs to be talked about. Women think they are the only ones feeling those emotions and that they are going crazy, but it's so common. I frequently read a Pregnancy and Birth Loss section on another forum, and then their Pregnancy After Birth Loss after I got pregnant again, and it really helped me to see that everything I was feeling was completely normal.  It's okay to feel all over the place.

Hugs and lots of sticky baby vibes your way.

Yes, I did.   I had been trying to get pregnant for years going the whole invitro fertilization, etc route.   I had a positive pregnancy test and some symptoms and we were so exicted, but later the doctor discovered I had a blighted ovum.    It would have passed on it's own (miscarried) but the doctor recommended I have a D&C to clean it all out since I already had so many GYN problems.   We were devastated, especially since we'd been trying so long and finally thought we were pregnant.   I was off a few days...more for the emotional distress than any medical reason, and my sweet DH booked us a wk long vacation to Hilton Head so I could recoup a bit before going back to work and having to face everyone.

I also didn't see the thread that you had miscarried. I'm so very sorry. The loss of any baby is very real. Give yourself time to grieve. It IS an important time in your life.

I have an infertility problem which is mostly that I can conceive but the baby doesn't survive past the first trimester. I've miscarried several times and each time is agonizing. Hubby and I would get so very excited when I was pregnant. And I always knew when I was pregnant, very early on, because the symptoms come on very fast - breast tenderness, morning sickness, etc. The hormones would be THERE, why wouldn't they keep going? I remember distinctly my first miscarriage where I woke up one day and suddenly all the symptoms of pregnancy were gone. People would tell me, "Be happy that the morning sickness stopped. Now you can enjoy your pregnancy." But I knew something was horribly wrong. I just wanted to crawl into a hole.

There is so much I can tell you. For instance, we learned early on not to even THINK of names. I couldn't bring myself to "re-use" the names that I had picked out for a miscarried baby. And I hated that sometimes hubby would seem to have completely forgotten about the miscarriage while I was still grieving. And don't get me started on those people who say, "Oh yeah, I had a miscarriage but had another baby immediately. You'll be okay. Forget about it." I don't want just the other baby - I want BOTH babies! Having another baby doesn't make me not miss this baby. And each future pregnancy, I'd hold my breath and be on pins and needles until I was past the point where I had the previous miscarriage. Oh and telling hubby "I'm pregnant!" is no longer fun, no longer happy news. That was hard. One of the reasons we quit infertility treatment was because I couldn't emotionally take another miscarriage. It had gotten to the point where I didn't even want to tell hubby when I was pregnant.

I did.  I misscarried on May 9, 1999, Mother's day.  I had a positive test, made the appt and told all my friends and family.  I assume I was about 6-8 weeks along.  I woke up one morning to a period.  And it was the most phyiscally painful period I ever had.   I remember the dr telling me don't try to get pregnant right away, let myself heal and all that stuff.  I did agree with him, and told my husband I wanted tos top trying.  The following week I took a test that was again positive.  I remember being a nervous wreck and having awful cramps, waiting for the other shoe to drop.  It was about 3 months after the miscarraige.  This ended up being Meghan.

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your baby and that there was no one for you to talk to about your miscarriage. 

I miscarried our first baby.  We had been having trouble conceiving and I was on fertility drugs to get pregnant.  Everything at first was going good, but at 9 weeks I started spotting, which progressively got worse.  I ended up going to ER one night and then miscarried the next morning when I went back to the doctor.  February  28th, 1998 will be a date I will never forget.  Time does heal, but I will never forget that day and the days that followed. 

We did start trying again soon after and became pregnant with our son, who will be 13 in a couple weeks.  One year later to the date of our miscarriage, we baptized our son.

Yes, I miscarried twice.  My 1st wasn't as hard as my 2nd.  I was further along with my 2nd and we had been trying for over 2 years.  With my 1st, there was some cramping but a very heavy period.  With my second - I was curled up on my bed for many hours from the pain.  It was horrible.  We were also told not to try and get pregnant until I had 3 regular periods.  I did not listen and we started trying as soon as the bleeding stopped.  I was pregnant a month later, went to see a specialist, was put on progestrone and had our son 9 months later.  After our 2nd miscarriage, we learned to not tell anyone.  It was so hard to have to tell people that we lost the baby.  We waited 4 months until we started telling people. 

Sorry to hear about your loss. 

I have not but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for those of you who have suffered such a loss.