I am PROUD of myself I do not look like a skeleton by ANY means, anyway I just want to smack them.....
Anyone have a good comeback
Take it as a compliment!! When I lost 35 lbs (gained lots of it back :( ) only 3 people that I knew gave me positive support. Even my very good friends said nothing. I looked great, and without a doubt they were jealous. It really puzzled me back then, but now I can see the forest from the trees and know now that they were paying me a compliment. Oddly enough two of the three that noticed were just aquaintances. The others were good friends. Goes to show something, doesn't it?
When I weight 229, people would comment that I would be pretty if I lost weight.
Then when I lost down to 120, those same people would tell me that I would be so pretty if I gain weight and didn't look so bony.
There was one person that always made this comment. I finally said one day "you know Mary, you would have more friends if you would do something with your bleach stringy hair".
Hm-mm, come to think of it, I haven't seen her much since.!!!!LOL
Yes and it makes me nervous.
Several years ago I went from 185 lbs to 135 lbs. Apparently the change was dramatic because a guy I used to work with started to flirt with me (which I didn't encourage.) Later I heard he was asking around about me because he thought I was a new employee! (And he thought I was really cute - ugh) He literally didn't recognize me 50bs lighter. I had worked with him - closely - on an important project for 5 years and he didn't recognize me. I freaked.
A few years later, after some weight crept back on, I purposely tried to lose weight and was succeeding. About halfway though my loss to my goal, it was apparent I needed new clothes, especially jeans. I went shopping and found that the only jeans that fit were the size that I imagined I'd be wearing at my goal weight. I flipped out and completely gave up on trying to lose weight.
When people comment on my weight loss it sabotages me. When hubby relocated to MS before us, I lost about 10 lbs due to sheer nervousness and anxiety. He came home to visit and made a simple compliment that I looked good and he noticed I had lost weight. BAM! The weight went right back on. I really have to get over this.
I was just going to post something regarding this. Although I am not losing weight right now, I am thin and like my size. Last night DD came home with clothes she was getting rid of and one was a pair of size 4 jeans. When I picked them up to look at them, she said, "Tell me you aren't a size 4 now?" like it was a crime that I fit into something smaller than she did (and I've always been a size 4--I just never broadcast it because I knew my DDs wore a bigger size and knew what insecurities that could create for them). Dh also gave me a look (which I interpreted as being too thin). I felt like a criminal for being in shape and exercising regularly. I can't help it if that is one of my priorities. I felt the reverse of what people who are overweight go through.
And like you, Momof2boys, I do exercise about 5 times a week--but they aren't long workouts--30 minutes of cardio tops plus a short weight training session three times a week. Why should that be a bad thing?
I'd like to know a good comeback too.
I think it points to their own insecurities. When they ask you if you ever eat, could it be that maybe they think that is a compliment? However, how in the world is working out 5x a week "working out too much"? Isnt that what people are supposed to do in order to improve their fitness level? Either way I think they are not handling their jealousy very well and it's good that you are aware they aren't really friends.