What would you do? Someone else correcting your child - Page 3

Is this common behavior to sit on a table? I don't remember my children ever sitting on a table ANYWHERE LOL. I must admit I wouldn't like someone yelling at my kids, but if they said it in a somewhat reasonable tone I wouldn't mind. I agree with some of the others, that while I might be a bit miffed at the aunt, I'd probably worry more about my own child's misbehavior and focus on that. My job isn't to raise adults, but it is to teach my children appropriate social behavior.

At a hall like that, one of those big, long commercial tables, all the chairs were folded up/put away for the cleanup, I would probably be sitting on the table with your daughter, if I had been standing around for a while.

Unless the kid is doing something that could cause a trip to the ER, I don't discipline other people's kids if I haven't specifically been put in a position of authority over those kids by the parents.

 

If the table wasn't shaking under her weight, about to cave in, and she wasn't in anyone's way or doing any harm, Aunty should have kept her mouth shut. IF she was going to say something, she should have kept it civil. "Suzy, please get off the table and find someplace else to sit." Not "Get off the table! NOW!"

 

When I am asked to watch someone else's kids in their parents' absence, then I call them out on unacceptable behaviors, and issue and enforce consequences. If their parents are present, I simply ask the parent, "Did you know that Marcus is using the frosting on his cake to paint his little brother's face?" and then let the parent deal with it as s/he sees fit.

I also thought it was someone's dining room table.

 

Since it was at a hall and there were no chairs, I probably would have told the aunt that I had instructed DD to stay in the corner so she would be out of the way while we finished up. Again, I don't care about someone's "tone". That's simply too easily misinterpretted. DD would have probably asked if she was in trouble and I would have said, "no".

Did she say all the chairs were folded up? I think I missed that part.

I completely agree. I'm cool with people correcting my children as long as they aren't swearing or yelling. The only time someone better yell at my kids to correct them is if they or other children are in harm's way.

Yeah, the comment she made at the end was a little over the top, IMO. Why would she need to yell? I would never yell at someone else's child unless they were about to do something dangerous and I needed to get their attention. Otherwise, if I feel the need to correct a child, I talk to them in a normal tone. 

 

 

My SIL (and sometimes my brother) will correct my kids and I hate it.  They will correct them even before I get a chance to do it myself.  I am right there, I am their mom, if I feel they are doing something wrong, I am more than capable of talking to my kids.  Come talk to me if you have a problem with my kid and then I will handle the situation.  Now, if I wasn't around and they were doing something they shouldn't be or would put themselves or someone else in danger - fine, discipline them.  But let me correct their behavior if I'm right there and if I feel it needs to be corrected.