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post #11 of 50
3/13/12 at 9:56pm
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Well once again I'll disagree somewhat . Yes, in a perfect world the teacher should have known. But in reality I'm sure she had more than just the one child to worry about. She probably assumed if she told the child to do something that she would do it. I would be upset and ask her to watch her the next two times, but I'm not so sure that her not paying attention to only one child when she had many is really an offense worth throwing a fit about.
So I'd be mildly miffed at the teacher, but I'd be equally or more so miffed at my child. If she KNEW she didn't have permission and KNEW she was supposed to go to sports practice even if she didn't want to, then I'd be upset with her. If she had done what she was told by you and by the teacher, none of this would have been a problem.


This!

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post #12 of 50
3/14/12 at 7:33am
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Originally Posted by aliadam View Post

Well once again I'll disagree somewhat . Yes, in a perfect world the teacher should have known. But in reality I'm sure she had more than just the one child to worry about. She probably assumed if she told the child to do something that she would do it. I would be upset and ask her to watch her the next two times, but I'm not so sure that her not paying attention to only one child when she had many is really an offense worth throwing a fit about.
So I'd be mildly miffed at the teacher, but I'd be equally or more so miffed at my child. If she KNEW she didn't have permission and KNEW she was supposed to go to sports practice even if she didn't want to, then I'd be upset with her. If she had done what she was told by you and by the teacher, none of this would have been a problem.


I completely agree. 

 

It doesn't sound like this was the first for school sports.  What was the normal procedure for after school sports?  Is this normal behavior for your child?  

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post #13 of 50
3/14/12 at 7:52am

I would be extremely upset with my child and apologize to the school staff for having them worry about her.  My dd would be punished both at home, and ideally at school.  She deliberately did something that could have caused her great danger and I'd make sure she wouldn't do it again.  At first or second grade, they know better.  She didn't want to go to the sport, so she just didn't, despite what she had been told to do.  I just can't image trying to pin the responsibility on the teacher.

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post #14 of 50
3/14/12 at 9:39am
We are talking first and second graders. They are becoming responsible but they are still little kids. I know if there is a kid missing in DD's class and she has been there the rest of the day, the teacher inquires first, with the kids, "Have you seen little Billy?" and then she would call down to the office. Kids just do not up amd leave the school without an adult knowing it and my dd's school has a pretty open campus.

As for calling the school to "apologize for making them worry", they weren't worried, that was part of the problem. Why apologize for something that didn't happen?
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post #15 of 50
3/14/12 at 9:50am
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Originally Posted by melsb View Post

We are talking first and second graders. They are becoming responsible but they are still little kids. I know if there is a kid missing in DD's class and she has been there the rest of the day, the teacher inquires first, with the kids, "Have you seen little Billy?" and then she would call down to the office. Kids just do not up amd leave the school without an adult knowing it and my dd's school has a pretty open campus.
As for calling the school to "apologize for making them worry", they weren't worried, that was part of the problem. Why apologize for something that didn't happen?

I could have misunderstood, but I thought it was the end of the school day when this occurred. So if the teacher sees the child grabs her bag to supposedly go to the sports practice as the teacher told her to do, but the child goes instead outside with the other children leaving, how is the teacher supposed to know if she's dealing with other kids? Yes, it's young children and the teacher had a classroom full of them to watch. She also said the teacher DID call as soon as she noticed the child missing. So in my opinion they did show a concern. Like I said, I'd definitely be upset with the situation, but I think the responsibility is the child's for not doing as told by her mother AND her teacher. In an ideal world it wouldn't happen, but the teacher has many children to worry about, not just one to watch.
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post #16 of 50
3/14/12 at 9:59am
Was it the end of the day? Or part of the regular school day? I missed that. Regular school day, I would be angry at the school and my child. End of the day? I guess it would depend on the exact circumstances. If it is part of a required class, which it sounds like it, some sort of attendance should be taken and some sort of responsibility of the school should be required.

Apologizing to a teacher that was upset? Yes, I would have my child do that. Apologizing to a school secretary that sounded pretty indifferent. No, I wouldn't waste any of our time.
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post #17 of 50
3/14/12 at 10:05am

At our school, if the child were in first or second grade and had an after school activity (within the school), they would have been dropped off at the activity.  They weren't allowed to go on their own.  The teachers were responsible for getting them where they were supposed to be after school.  If they walked home, they didn't release the child until the parent showed up.

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post #18 of 50
3/14/12 at 10:09am
We just did a field trip, where I pulled my kid out separately, and her teacher was there having me sign that DD was with me and no longer in their care. And she did it with all the other kids.
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post #19 of 50
3/14/12 at 10:41am
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Originally Posted by melsb View Post

Was it the end of the day? Or part of the regular school day? I missed that.

In her original post she used the term after school twice. I assumed that the teacher was having to get some kids ready for after school sports and other kids ready to go to home.
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post #20 of 50
3/14/12 at 10:47am
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Originally Posted by Diane View Post

At our school, if the child were in first or second grade and had an after school activity (within the school), they would have been dropped off at the activity.  They weren't allowed to go on their own.  The teachers were responsible for getting them where they were supposed to be after school.  If they walked home, they didn't release the child until the parent showed up.

So who was watching the other children in the class while the teacher was walking the single child to their activity? That makes no sense to me. In my kids elementary kids were routinely told to go to the office or go to the school nurse or go to the gym or go to speech therapy etc and were expected to do so without a teacher walking them and leaving the other children unattended. .
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Originally Posted by melsb View Post

We just did a field trip, where I pulled my kid out separately, and her teacher was there having me sign that DD was with me and no longer in their care. And she did it with all the other kids.

Well I would certainly expect them to do that if you pull your child out separately. I'm not sure what that has to do with the original post though as that's the school relieving itself from a legal responsibility if the parent is supervising the child and they're not assigned to other school personnel to supervise.
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