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I guess I just don't understand why you are so upset with the school.  The teacher told her twice.  She could tell by her body language that she didn't want to go - well, she didn't want to go so the teacher got that right.  Then to just pick up and walk off - home - when the teacher thought she was going to sports...well, the teacher thought that the 2nd time she told her to go, she did, it sounds like.  They couldn't have called you any earlier because teacher thought she went to sports, and when they did roll call and she wasn't there they called you.  What else could they have done?  It seemed like they did only what they could.

I'd just have her drop the class alltogether if she hates it that much.  As you said, she is little, and if she is miserable there, why make her?

I don't think anyone can truly know how and what they would do unless they were in the exact situation.  I know I would have been upset with the school.  She was 7.  You don't misplace a 7 year old.  Secondly, I know with my kids, if they wanted to do something, we made them stick it out until the end of the program.  We didn't want them to think they could continue to quit things.  It made them think twice about what they wanted to join or waste our money on.  

If anything, I hope your school comes up with a better plan to monitor where the kids are.

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Originally Posted by melsb 

I think every mom here would be ticked off at the situation, the school and their child. She did walk home without anyone being aware. Being an end of the day class that evidently not everyone is involved, I am not sure how they could make it better, but yes, I completely understand you unhappiness. She is seven years old and she was having a bad day. In a perfect world the teacher would have called with that information but the teacher is busy and she knows you have two small ones at home. And your husband is still traveling, isn't he?
I'm sorry.

I agree.  And maybe things are different there, but here, if your child is on school grounds, in a school sponsored event, unless you have signed off on them being responsible, they ARE responsible.  It IS a liability on them to make sure the kids are where they are supposed to be...or call home to let parents know they aren't.  THAT is my problem with all of this.  At this age, someone at the school should have checked to make sure all kids who were supposed to be there WERE there.  YES, the child would SO be in trouble for just leaving....but the school supervision needs to be dealt with, too.

I would be upset with my child, but not the school. The problem with education today is parents need to stop making excuses for their children. This child is 7, she knew she needed to go to sports class and she did not do it. It is not the schools the fault. 7 year olds go where they need to go everyday at schools, after school a teacher cannot walk every student to where they need to go. A 7 year old should know better than to walk home alone. The school called the parent when they realized the child did not do what they are supposed to do. I am not sure of the size of the size of the school, but the public schools around here have over 500 kids at the end of the day the teachers walk them out, the kids who go to after school care go there on their own, they see them heading that way and if they chose to ditch out, that is the child not doing what they are supposed to. That is the child's fault, they need to take responsibility for that. And the school has to stay calm in situations like this, it is not a lack of indifference, it is because do not do what they need to do all the time and they can't get worked up about it.

I truly empathize with your situation, I do.  Regardless of what should have been done, your daughter was upset.  But I still would pull her IF she is that miserable, and apparently she is because she knew she was told to go by both you and her teacher and she didn't.  I don't let ds quit things if he 'doesn't feel like going'.  I always say, "we paid, we're going" and that's the end of story.  If he doesn't want to do it next time, fine.  But if he was clearly *miserable* about going - and I found out why and it was a good reason, I would tell the director of the program exactly why he was so miserable about going first to see if there would be anything that could be changed.  If nothing could be changed, I would write a letter to the people who put on the program and very diplomatically tell them why I was pulling him, and I'm sure if I did it correctly it wouldn't hurt his chances of getting in another program.  I would also let him know that this was a one time thing, that anything else he signs up for he will follow through.  I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bath water, if you KWIM?  Certain situations call for something that we ordinarily wouldn't do.

Anyway, sorry this happened to her, maybe you can get to the root of why she doesn't want to go and go from there.