dd's school. - Page 5

I'm glad to see the school is following up on this because no matter what exactly happened, more security on a school site is always a good things. This has opened up the discussion among the staff, and this will be most likely addressed and brainstormed during a staff meeting. 

This is also a wonderful opportunity to talk with your dd about responsibility. Walking over to an after school program is a great way for young children to start being responsible for themselves within a boundary. Second grade is a changing, growing year and giving a little is important. It's a simple thing, but a big step that feels good when they can be trusted to make the right choice. It builds confidence. So, I would talk about what a big deal it is that she is old enough to be trusted to make the good choice and safely walk to class. Even if you are still feeling unsure inside, this is a great teachable moment. 

As far as your dd not wanting to go, maybe she just wants to come home.  My girls are exhausted by the end of the school day.

7 year old girls can be so fickle at times , they are starting to become big kids but still not quite there so somewhere inbetween and how confusing is that.

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Originally Posted by melsb 

I think every mom here would be ticked off at the situation, the school and their child. She did walk home without anyone being aware. Being an end of the day class that evidently not everyone is involved, I am not sure how they could make it better, but yes, I completely understand you unhappiness. She is seven years old and she was having a bad day. In a perfect world the teacher would have called with that information but the teacher is busy and she knows you have two small ones at home. And your husband is still traveling, isn't he?
I'm sorry.

I agree. I have a hard time believing anyone who claims they wouldn't be upset with the school. Even a little. They shouldn't offer after school activities for children that young if they can't provide the proper supervision. 

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Originally Posted by bananabellesmom 

Seriously??!!  shall we lower the age of reason and adulthood to 7 then?    I am not in any way making excuses for my child, I am not the problem in education.  I could go on and on, but really not wasting my time with this one.  

 

You could go on and on, but you said your child knew she was supposed to go and she didn't go there. That is not the teachers fault, blaming the school is making an excuse. She left school because she did not want to go to her class and I she will do things like this again because she is not having to take responsibility for her actions. You can blame the school all you want, but I will never agree with that. You said your daughter knew she had to go and she didn't do it, and she did not do it, she needs to learn. Yes, I would be upset and worried and to be honest at first I probably would have been upset with the school, but I hope I would have been able to look at look at the situation and realize my child left school when she was supposed to be going to her class and she knew that. Had she been confused it might have been different, but that was not the case. I do not know the whole situation, but please realize that the teacher dismissed your child to go to her class and that is evident because she told her to get her kit thing and the teacher expected her to go there. I hope in the future you can see how ridiculous it is to want the teacher to walk your daughter to where she needs to be, she is one in a class of probably at least 20.

I am not trying be rude, but this is my opinion and when you posted I am sure you realized not everybody is going to agree with you.

I am glad the school is concerned about this, i was really bothered by the nonchalance that you seemed to be getting earlier. Hopefully this will bring about some positive security changes. Dh and I had a long talk about this situation, and we both agreed that no matter what, child safety has to be a number one priority at schools today. This conversation would be a whole lot different if she had not made it home safely. I am sure that is what the school is thinking as well.

You know what?  I can see why the teacher aspect comes into play, and sometimes we forget as our kids get older.  This might seem OT but hang in there with me.  I remember posting here about a much less situation 5 years ago!  Ds was in Montessori and had had bronchitis.  When he was better I let him go to school and on that day he didn't wear his boots and his socks got soaking wringing wet and he sat there in class like that all day.  I was so miffed the teacher didn't tell him to change (they make them bring a complete change of clothes) and I remember I even emailed the teacher because of it!  I would never do that now, looking back!

So, yes, when they are bigger it is easier to forget.  I remember my thread went a Lot like this one, and it was only about soggy socks!

 I have a 7 year old and I would be so angry at him if he pulled a  stunt like this. Yes I would be upset about the entire situation. But my 7 year old is extremely responsible compared to my oldest at that age. So depending on how immature or mature my child was also weather they have been allowed to be responsible in the home would probably determine how mad I was at school and my child. Not every kid is the same or matures the same and not every kid is parented the same some are not equipped with the skills at that age to be responsible and may be more sheltered than others so I think that plays a huge role in peoples opinions on the situation. Those that may not have those skills instilled in them yet may not be capable of knowing the ramifications of their actions.

I guess one of my biggest concerns would be what is going on at this after school free activity that my child does not want to go so much so that she broke the rules and just walked home. I would be concerned what was going on there. Maybe nothing but it's something worth looking into she could have been having such a horrible day because she was so worked up and had so much anxiety over having to go. Just a thought.