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post #1 of 20
3/16/12 at 10:21am
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If someone asks to use something of yours and you really don't want to let them use it, what would you say?

We rented, for the season, DD's skiing equipment. Last night I received a text from MG1's mom asking to use DD's equipment. For those of you who aren't up to date, MG1 (Mean Girl 1 as I refer to her here on ms) has known my daughter since birth and has this year especially, bullied my dd. She also, my biggest complaint, turned most of the girls in DD's classroom on my child as well. We have talked to the parents, teacher, school councilor and principal and not met with a lot of success. At this point, we are attempting to coast out the year and next year they will be placed in separate classes.

Anyway, last night, I received a text from MG1's mom asking to use DD's equipment today. And honestly, for my own petty reasons, her DD has been a brat to mine, I am not inclined to let her use my child's equipment. I never use their stuff. I have attempted to separate the girls.

Would you loan the equipment out? What would you say if you didn't?
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post #2 of 20
3/16/12 at 10:30am

I would just say no

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post #3 of 20
3/16/12 at 10:30am

If you rented it, then it's not actually your equipment, and that's the excuse I would use when you tell her no.biggrin.gif

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post #4 of 20
3/16/12 at 11:06am

I'm fairly certain she can rent ski equipment for her child for the day - and I wouldn't hesitate to tell her just that.

 

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post #5 of 20
3/16/12 at 11:07am
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Originally Posted by mamax3 View Post

If you rented it, then it's not actually your equipment, and that's the excuse I would use when you tell her no.biggrin.gif



This is exactly what I was thinking.  If something happens to it, you are responsible, not her and I would think you would get in trouble for lending it.

 

I also would have no trouble saying no.  Let her rent her own.  Skis are expensive.  Renting is too.  Even if she had not been bullying your DD, I would still say no.  (Although, that fact makes it easier.)

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post #6 of 20
3/16/12 at 11:17am
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I had the benefit of staying at a hotel last night and just told her that I didn't get the message until this morning when it was already too late. DH thought I should have been the better person and let them use it but I would have had to leave our hotel and go get everything ready for them. I have had other parents ask to use this equipment too. Yes, skiing is expensive but the actual rental equipment isn't that much. And if someone damages it ... I just rarely ask to use other people's stuff. Though I suppose we have a neighbor but we switch stuff around with all the time but that is different.
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post #7 of 20
3/16/12 at 12:10pm

I would never loan out something that wasn't actually mine.

 

And I would just use that as an excuse.

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post #8 of 20
3/16/12 at 12:31pm

sometimes "not getting the message" is a good thing!  

 

I would not let her borrow them either, since they are rented, they are not really yours to lend.  

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post #9 of 20
3/16/12 at 7:21pm

My standard response for things I would rather not do is, "I'd rather not."

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post #10 of 20
3/17/12 at 7:00pm
I guess for me I would have examined WHY I didn't want to loan it out. If it was because I was worried because it was rental equipment and I didn't want the liability I would have said that. If it was because of the MG situation, I probably would have lent it. I know you don't like the little girl, but honestly she isn't the one you hurt. She will still get ski equipment either way. It was the mom, which I believe you have said you still like, that you hurt by costing her more money. But either way it was your decision. Looks like you found an out.
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