Would your hubby/SO make a good stay at home Dad? - Page 2

DH is great with the kids. However the house would look worse than it does already and I would still do the washing.

It would be like leaving three kids at home.

 

DH gets three days leave a month - so he normally takes one day leave a month just to be at home - what he does on that day is basically play PS3 all day. If he was a SAHD - he probally would do exactally the same.

No.  Dh told me years ago, when dh was a baby, that he didn't know how I did it.  He also doesn't have the patience and he gets very bored around the house.  He's one of those people who needs to get out of the house and go to a job every day.

I voted no, but the truth is Dh would be very good at the house stuff. The problem is him and Ds butt heads way to much and he does not know how to pick his battles. I fear I would come home to only one survivor.
 

We have often said that we want to get to a place where hubby could be the SAHD for a while and I'd go back to work. With hubby getting closer to retirement age, we might let him retire early and I'll go back to work long enough to qualify for my own retirement benefits.

 

Oh, there would be an adjustment period. He'd get lost in the computer all day. Already he has moments where he thinks I do nothing but sit at home and eat bonbons all day (okay, some days are pretty lax! - one of the perks of my job). And we would definitely concentrate on different aspects. For instance, more projects around the house would probably get done but the quality of our eating would go down. And like a SAHM he would go through the inevitable depression-phase because it is really hard to stay focused and motivated when your job never ends and you have no defined goals. Plus I think it is harder for SAHDs because they don't have the same opportunities for socialization as moms do, and even our opportunities are rare. Look at the SAHDs who have tried to join this forum - it just doesn't happen. Hubby is like that. He wouldn't reach out and be social on purpose.

 

But hubby would have one benefit that I never did ... a spouse that has been there and understands what he is going through.

 

He is a great dad and DD would love to have him home all the time.

NO, my DH is a work-a-holic, staying home all day would make him crazy. Plus, he is not domestic at. all. He has no clue how to do laundry, clean house or cook/bake. I do wish he were home more to spend quality time with us, other than that, I like our arrangement.

This!

My DH would have done a fine job as a SAHD. I doubt he would have planned as many outings or playdates as me, and wouldn't have spent every minute worrying about their enrichment, but in some ways he's more patient and very loving to them. the only area he probably would have failed in is healthy meals. He cooks NOTHING, so it would have all been convenience or fast food. So it wouldn't have been exactly as I would have done, but he would have done a fine job still.

Yes, I think he'd be really good.  I don't think he would be good at the "staying home" part.  He would probably have them going places a lot.

Absolutely!  He has said before that he'll trade with me whenever I'm ready.  Personally, I think he'd miss his job, but he has always been great with the kids. He keeps house well, too.  We both lived alone for years before getting married, so that helped. 
 

NO he would not.