If you took care of a parent, do you feel you should be entitled to more of the inheritance? - Page 3

I would definitely believe that they were 'entitled' to more of the inheritance.  If it were me care-giving, I would probably not expect any more inheritance, but it would be nice for some extra $$ from a sibling while the parent is still alive for expenses.

I recently found out some old (really old) family gossip that I found fascinating!  My grandmother had 3 siblings, 2 sisters and a brother.  When all the kids except the eldest got married, the eldest stayed in the family home, had a small job but not enough to live on, and she had no time because she was caring for her parents.

Her parents eventually died.  My grandmother & other married sister wanted the brother to pool each give their shares of the house to the sister who was basically a spinster because she was the caregiver.  She didn't have enough of a job to support herself and had no where to live except the family home.  The brother, however, said, "tough" and wanted to sell the house, divide the $ up 4 ways and, to heck with the other sister.

My grandmother and her married sister decided to pony up the brother's portion of the $$ he would have gotten from the house (this was during the Depression!)  and they did, so the older sister could stay in the house.  They had no hard feelings, all three sisters were very very close after all this happened.  However, the brother - whom I'm never met even though he's my great uncle - was never spoken to again.  I'd never met him, and his name was never spoken ever again.

Sad, but I so rally around those women that were behind their sister that they somehow found the money to buy the brother out so they could take care of their sister.  Good riddance, Uncle George!

I am really not looking forward to dealing with all of this. I get the bulk of my father's life insurance, my younger sister a smaller portion, and my other sister and both of my brothers get nothing. I have known this for well over a year. I don't think my brothers will say anything, my younger sister is already aware. My older sister will pitch a fit. Now, most of us are half siblings. Older sister and one brother from my mother. Oldest brother from my father. Younger sister and I from both. I live in Florida. Little Sis is in Tennessee. Both brothers and older sister are in Ohio. My father already lives with me. And has for the last 9 years. He can still get around. He does not pay bills. Though he does buy some groceries when he wants something specific. Like the fried turkey a few weeks ago. LOL...he came home with a turkey and I knew what he wanted. I do everything that my father can't or won't do. I wash his laundry, make most of his meals, etc. It really isn't much right now. But we do support him, financially speaking. He has some money but not much and doesn't help with bills.

My younger sister would definitely help if she had the means to do so. My brothers and older sister just don't care. They don't call. Nothing. As a matter of fact, they didn't even call to wish him a happy Father's Day on Sunday. Older sister only claims him as a father when she wants something. She has some idea that he is wealthy and pays all of my bills for me. Far, VERY far, from the truth.

Daddy is only 63 years old. He has MS though. And now has high cholesterol which I am trying hard to lower with the foods I cook. I know that the day will come where he can't take care of himself and it will all fall to me. There is no one else to help. My older siblings don't care and won't help or contribute in any way. My younger sister will never be financially able to help and lives too far. Though I know she will spend at least one week down here every year so I will at least get a break. I am prepared to take this all on. But....should my siblings that don't care, have no contact with him, really get anything? I know it will cause problems but they barely speak to us anyway so I am not seeing a huge issue. There isn't much. The life insurance will probably only cover his bills, if it even covers all of them.

I agree with this.  If there's to be any compensation for caregiving, it shouldn't be upon the parents' death.  It should be paid as otherwise arranged BEFORE the estate.