I am annoyed at dd's teacher! long

DD (almost 8) came home yesterday and told me that she lost all of her golden time.  She has only ever once lost her golden time (walking home from school by herself)

So, we sit down, "what did you do?".   "  I dropped a piece of chalk."   UM ok I'm gonna need more than that!

This was the conversation with the teacher this morning:

She was placed in a group of 3.  Outside writing time.  All of the group was screwing around, they ALL got a warning.  fine.  When it came time to go in, they had a bunch of stuff, rulers, papers, chalk, pencils.  DD was carrying it all.  She asked for help.  They other girls said no, she got a bit cheesed off and dropped the chalk down.  

One girl saw and told on her.  She went into class, was told to go and get the chalk and then told to move her pin for zero golden time.  

The other 2 girls didn't lose anything.

I sat down with dd last night 2 times, I DIDN'T believe my child.  I told her I didn't believe her.  I said, why would the teacher take your golden time away for getting a bit frusterated and dropping chalk?  I told her that if she was lying there would be a huge punishment.  

When I talked to the teacher this morning, she sounded very flustered.  I asked her why the whole group was not punished, as it was a whole group thing.  She said that she would talk to the other girls today, I will talk to her again.

I would have zero problem with her losing her time if they all did.  But then again, it has been crap weather here the last 4 weeks straight, and the first sunny pleasant day they get to go outside.... well I think as a child I would probably be messing around too.  

This just seems so silly to me!  I support teachers and their punishments 99% of the time, but this is just insane.  

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Originally Posted by Karen1985 

Maybe there was a big ol' attitude involved by your dd? That's really the only way it would make sense to me.  The story as is just sounds kind of ridiculous.

No attitude from dd, I made sure to ask that!

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Originally Posted by queenofthelaundry 

Sounds like the teacher might have lost her cool and acted rashly.  I'll bet she feels a little silly... but hey teachers are people too.  Hopefully, she's got enough integrity to fess up and revoke your DD's punishment.

That's is what I am thinking, as she mentioned the phrase "last straw"...  I think dd got the brunt of it.

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Originally Posted by ruthie 

If it was a group of three then all of them should have been punished. If they were working together all of them should have helped bring in the supplies.

 

Also, tattle tales for something this minor, should have not been rewarded and should have time out too. But if your daughter dropped the chalk on purpose and maybe in a fit of anger, then she should have been talked to, about her anger, along with being punished with rest of the girls.

The girl that tattled on her, is always tattling on everyone.... ugh.  I don't think dd had a fit of anger, I do believe she was angry, but didn't fit about it.  She did drop it on purpose, more so to get the others to help out with all the stuff since they wouldn't!  cause the tattler saw, and you'd think instead of telling, she would have just picked it up, but no.

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Originally Posted by aliadam 

I would wait to hear the rest of the story before getting too angry. I agree that if the other girls refused to help, I might be upset if my child was punished. But I also agree that if my child did it in a fit of anger then she should probably be punished. Especially if she "threw" the chalk in anger rather than "dropped" the chalk by accident.

No, she didn't throw it, she just dropped it, on purpose!  LOL  

we'll see.  This is a child who has only had her golden time taken away for walking home on her own (remember that??!!  LOL).  otherwise, even the teacher admitted it this morning, she has never taken away any of her time.  

I couldn't talk with her teacher after school, as she was in a meeting.

But, She sat down with the group, talked it out and gave dd her time back.

I think she had one of those "I've had enough" moments and dd was the end of it!   Oh well, I think more of her now that she "made a mistake" and put it right.