I do cut my own bangs and I cut my dd's. The last time I let a hair stylist cut my bangs, they did some weird poofy thing, never again.
The key for me is to cut them when they are dry, so I'm cutting along the natural way they lay (my bangs curl up more on one side than the other). Also, I do not find my wet hair to be an accurate measure of length since it pulls up once it's dry. Just cut a little at a time, don't get overzealous. And sharp, smaller scissors are needed.
It usually takes a couple days to get the final cut. I let it settle, then snip a little more when I see a longer piece or whatever. The only times I have cut my bangs too short were when I was in a rush, did it when they were wet, and didn't take my time and go really slowly, so they didn't lay nicely and had to be cut more to fix it.
With dd, I do pretty much the same thing. I do it while she is eating and watching tv so she's distracted (she's 2.5) and do a quick trim across. I let it settle, look for any long pieces and usually trim again the next day.
ETA: I used to like them really short, I had bangs like Betty Page, short and straight. Now, I keep them longer, partially covering my eyebrows, but still straight across (I just bobbed my hair last week, but before that I wanted Lexi Grey hair :)
Edited by liamsmom - 6/23/12 at 4:28pm