Little bully

I am not sure what you can do. I know with Ds we talked about making good choices, he is 4 and really seemed to get the hang of it. We told him a good choice is sharing with your friends. A bad choice is hitting your friends. A good choice is listening to your teacher. A bad choice is not picking up toys during clean up time. That kind of thing. Whenever the teacher brought up a bad choice we just talked to him about what a good choice would of been.
 

This is one of those times where I would talk to the teacher and find out exactly how much of a problem it is.  They can usually suggest ways to help him find a more appropriate form of showing affection and you and the school can work together to solve it.  The teachers also like to know that the parents care enough and are concerned enough to help with it and support them on it.

Likes to sit on friends??!!  LOL   I think that is a funny way to put it.  Maybe it isn't a "big" issue and they are just trying to tell you in a nice way to maybe tackle this at home without making such an issue of it.

I think if there was a concern about it, they would have stated more.  

How old is he?

I'm not trying to make light of it, I just think it's a lot better than "likes punching and pinching and biting".  that I'd be worried over!

It sounds to me like he is a little boy who likes to cuddle and be near others. 

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Originally Posted by deemom 

It sounds to me like he is a little boy who likes to cuddle and be near others. 

This is my thought too.  Sounds kind of cute, unless you are the one being plopped on.  

I think the important part - and this is what you'll ask the teacher - is what does the kid getting sit on react. If the other kid thinks this is a fun game, fine. If the other kid objects and your son doesn't show concern or empathy, then this is a teaching moment.

And keep in mind he is only 12 months old! At this point, developmentally he isn't even fully aware that other people are separate entities from him. To him a classmate that is annoyed because he was being sat on is more annoying to your son, not annoyed as a separate person with feelings.

Is your son verbal at all? You might want to start teaching him "please". So when he comes up to you and wants a cuddle, instead of physically insisting, teach him to come close to you and say, "Please". Reward him by cuddling him each time he asks.

They give out school reports for 1 year olds? I've never heard of that. If they thought it was a serious problem, I think they would do more than write one sentence in a report. I certainly wouldn't be concerned that he was a little bully.

At one I wouldn't be too worried. It isn't like you can really sit him down for a come to Jesus conversation and expect him to get a lot out of it. If  you see him doing it to someone other than you adn your DH then I would just stop him and tell him we don't sit on friends. I would also want to talk to the teacher about when and what the circumstances are when he does this. I would want to know what they do about it when it happens. My DD was a biter when she was between a year and 18 months. Didn't take long for me to realize that she only bit when there was chaos instead of structure. We had to bump her up to the 2 yr old class where they had more structured playtime, circle time, coloring time, etc.