Miserable people

I know of people who struggle from depression, and those feelings can obviously be a part of that.

 

 

Some people are just extremely "woe is me" as a narcissistic attention grabbing ploy. Those people annoy the bejeezus out of me and I usually cut them out of my life as much as possible. It is just not worth the drama.

I do think there are people like that. I honestly tend to let friends like that go. What kills me is that those are the people who always say I am all negative. I love my life. I laugh a lot. I am confident. I know who I am. Yes, sometimes negativity might get me for a minute but a positive outlook tends to rule over all. I am the last person to be "oh woe is me" or "all hope is gone". 

Yes. One of my sisters is like this. Granted, she has suffered from depression, and her life has had more tragedy and drama than any of the rest of ours. It is like a black cloud follows her around and, whenever you think the worst must be past, something else happens.

 

Still, when good things happen, it's not good enough. SHe is a worrier. I told DH once that I wished she could look at the glass and see it as half full instead of half empty. DH said the problem isn't whether or not the glass is half full or half empty, it's that it is glass, and it might break.

There are many people who focus on the negatives in their lives instead of the positives.  So yes.  I try to stir them towards what is good in their life to give them a hint that their complaints are getting me a bit down...

My Sil is like that. Everything bad that happens in her life is always someone else's fault. In all the years I have been with dh, I don't think there has ever been a time when she wasn't ignoring someone in the family. We have tried to maintain some kind of relationship with her, but man, it's stressful.

There is ALWAYS good, even in the middle of the BAD, BAD, BAD.  Believe me, I know!!!  :)  I had someone this morning mention to me that they don't know how I just keep smiling right now...but honest to goodness, is it not better to do that?  Why let the situation get to me?  Am I worried?  Yes.  Am I sad?  Yes.  Am I stressed?  Yes.  BUT....to do any of it to the extreme is just silly.  I have SO many blessings in my life.  I am holding on to those, knowing the rest will work out somehow! 

 

PS....The depression thing...please, please make sure you tell someone if you think they are depressed.  There is help available.  I had a friend point out to me about 6 weeks ago that she felt like I might be "sinking" again with all that is going on.  I got put back on Prozac....just a lower dose this time....and I feel SO much better.  I still sobbed my way through a heartbreaking movie Saturday night, but I was able to wipe my tears and move on when it was over!  HUGE difference!!  LOL

-Some people thrive on the attention they get with the "woe is me" mentality.

 

-Some people are never happy. My comparison at work when I meet a patient with this mentality is that I could give him a million dollars and he would complain about how crisp the bills were or were not. 

 

-Some people are just bitter and angry. You cannot be a happy person carrying around so much baggage. And you need to accept responsibility for what happens in your life. I can't stand people who always blame others....it's always someone else's fault. 

I see it all the time. (I especially see it a lot here on MS). I frequently talk about the glass half full vs. half empty syndrome. I think two people can look at the same situation and see it very opposite. They always see the worst in everything. Someone is being mean to them, or someone is being mean to their kids, or their neighbors are crazy, or their boss is a witch, or their MIL is slighting their kids, or their girlfriends leave them out, or their DH isn't as nice as everyone else's or on & on & on. I think so much of people's enjoyment in life is how they CHOOSE to look at it. If they see the worst in everyone around them and every situation around them they're just going to be miserable all the time. Try to think maybe the person didn't mean it the way you took it, or maybe your child WAS wrong (perish the thought), or your MIL doesn't do things exactly how you want but that the sky won't fall over that, or be grateful for the GOOD things about your DH. Luckily I don't have to deal with people like that in my real life much, but it's still draining when I do. I currently have someone on facebook that's like that & I no longer even respond to the woe is me posts. Makes me not want to be around those people. I feel bad that they're so miserable, but you really can't help someone else out of that mentality.
Edited by aliadam - 7/9/12 at 9:16am

Me, too! Or, like others have mentioned, I ignore them. I have people "hidden" on Facebook because I just can't stand to read the pity posts.

 

Now, it's one thing to not judge people who "seem" like they have everything.  But there are those people who are always comparing themselves to others and making themselves unhappy, that is what bothers me. I try really hard to enjoy my life for what it is at this point.  You just can't look at other people, or where they're at, and what they have.  That never made anyone happier.