who pays (or paid) for the room? We have another family wedding coming up in Sept. and it's about 3-4 hours away. It's another of DH's female cousin's sons (they have 5 boys getting married in that family in under a yr!!). So all along this cousin has told us to spend the night and they were reserving a block of 20 rooms or so for everyone from out of town. We always assumed we WOULD spend the night since it's so far away and it's a 6 hour OPEN BAR 
So today she calls to make sure we got our invitation (she's very hyper about this stuff) and to remind us to reserve our room. So anyway, she proceeds to say that the bride's family had offered to pay for all the rooms!!!! The rooms are about $150/NIGHT. She said that people on our family's side they were asking to give them $100 though if people could, and if they couldn't that this cousin and her DH would pay for the room. It had NEVER occurred to us that anyone BUT us would pay for the room.
I mean, seriously, how much do people pay nowadays for their daughter to get married? I just was stunned to think on top of this lavish wedding and a huge reception (band, full meal, the mentioned 6 hour open bar,etc) that they'd also plop down $3000+ dollars on hotel rooms. I'm beginning to think that I hope my DD elopes or something. So after college we're supposed to also pay for all of this?
So do you pay? Does the bridal family? *My cheap azz DH & my cheap azz said we're not doing that....if people can't pay for their own rooms they can just not come!!*
Edited by aliadam - 7/12/12 at 3:59pm
So today she calls to make sure we got our invitation (she's very hyper about this stuff) and to remind us to reserve our room. So anyway, she proceeds to say that the bride's family had offered to pay for all the rooms!!!! The rooms are about $150/NIGHT. She said that people on our family's side they were asking to give them $100 though if people could, and if they couldn't that this cousin and her DH would pay for the room. It had NEVER occurred to us that anyone BUT us would pay for the room.I mean, seriously, how much do people pay nowadays for their daughter to get married? I just was stunned to think on top of this lavish wedding and a huge reception (band, full meal, the mentioned 6 hour open bar,etc) that they'd also plop down $3000+ dollars on hotel rooms. I'm beginning to think that I hope my DD elopes or something. So after college we're supposed to also pay for all of this?
So do you pay? Does the bridal family? *My cheap azz DH & my cheap azz said we're not doing that....if people can't pay for their own rooms they can just not come!!*
Edited by aliadam - 7/12/12 at 3:59pm
I told dh we could have went to Disney for what we spent on this wedding. Its family so you do what you need to do, I guess.
