My dd hasn't said anything that bad to me (but if something happened to her dad, I could see that coming out of her mouth), but she does say mean things. She complains about my gray hair, she tells me I look like a boy because my hair is short, and she tells me I look like her grandmother. For some reason, it doesn't really bother me. I just let it roll off my back. When she says these things, I just tell her "That's what having kids does to a woman." lol
The difference between my dd and the other kids on here is that she would not feel bad if I cried over what she said. She would consider that a victory and love every minute of the fact that she finally got me to crack. She did something when she was 3 that completely frustrated me and caused me to cry in front of her and she laughed at me like it was the funniest thing in the world. That taught me never to show weakness in front of her (actually, I never show weakness in front of anyone, but especially not in front of dd).