Have your kids ever said anything hurtful to you that brought you to tears? - Page 2

My dd hasn't said anything that bad to me (but if something happened to her dad, I could see that coming out of her mouth), but she does say mean things.  She complains about my gray hair, she tells me I look like a boy because my hair is short, and she tells me I look like her grandmother.  For some reason, it doesn't really bother me.  I just let it roll off my back.  When she says these things, I just tell her "That's what having kids does to a woman." lol

The difference between my dd and the other kids on here is that she would not feel bad if I cried over what she said.  She would consider that a victory and love every minute of the fact that she finally got me to crack.  She did something when she was 3 that completely frustrated me and caused me to cry in front of her and she laughed at me like it was the funniest thing in the world.  That taught me never to show weakness in front of her (actually, I never show weakness in front of anyone, but especially not in front of dd).

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Originally Posted by Cookie2 

No ... I left. I packed a suitcase and left them both. I was so P.O.'ed. I was going to drive back to ID or something. Unfortunately a huge snowstorm was coming into New Mexico and I had to realize that trying to get through was not going to be that easy so I turned around and went back so I could make further plans. They hadn't even realized I was gone which P.O.'ed me even more. We fought and worked it out but it was a really horrible, horrible time.

"Unfortunately" you had to turn around and go back to them? Wow.

I've said some hurtful things to my parents, and my children have said some hurtful things to me. They're young though and nothing has had an adolescence "take that!" bite to it, just insensitive observations. DH has a gap between his front teeth, when ds lost his first tooth he was so excited, "Now I look just like Daddy!"  DD told me once that I had something on my face. Yes dear, I know, it's called a zit 

Not yet.  Ds is 10.5 and I remember being younger than that and really being a *itch with my mother and making her cry.    I'm not looking forward to the day that happens, I'm sure it will one of these days.

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Originally Posted by Starlite 

My dd hasn't said anything that bad to me (but if something happened to her dad, I could see that coming out of her mouth), but she does say mean things.  She complains about my gray hair, she tells me I look like a boy because my hair is short, and she tells me I look like her grandmother.  For some reason, it doesn't really bother me.  I just let it roll off my back.  When she says these things, I just tell her "That's what having kids does to a woman." lol

 

The difference between my dd and the other kids on here is that she would not feel bad if I cried over what she said.  She would consider that a victory and love every minute of the fact that she finally got me to crack.  She did something when she was 3 that completely frustrated me and caused me to cry in front of her and she laughed at me like it was the funniest thing in the world.  That taught me never to show weakness in front of her (actually, I never show weakness in front of anyone, but especially not in front of dd).

The fact that she didn't feel bad for making you cry would hurt me more than what she said to me. I'm sorry Starlite.  I always say, that when they become parents, they will understand how rotten they were as kids to us.

My girls have all said and still say things that I have to turn and walk away from because I'm so hurt by it.  They also feel bad afterwards, but I just don't understand why can't they think before they speak?  What I think is the most irritating is that they would never say anything like that to a friend. 

My kids have not intentionally hurt my feelings.  They have made off handed remarks that hurt and i immediately tell them that what they said hurt my feelings and by the same token they are quick to tell me when I hurt their feelings.