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When did you know you were done having kids?

post #1 of 19
7/18/12 at 12:18pm
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I'm not sure about this one yet, I have my hands full but I'm not closed to the idea of having one more when I'm done with school. How did you know you didn't want anymore babies?

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post #2 of 19
7/18/12 at 12:21pm
I never got to where I don't want more. My dr told me that it was unlikely that either a baby or I would surrvive if we had another.
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post #3 of 19
7/18/12 at 12:30pm

This has absolutley nothing to do with want but I knew I was done when they tied my tubes out of necessity! LOL

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post #4 of 19
7/18/12 at 12:46pm
My not having more kids had nothing to do with me deciding to not have more. I would have liked more kids given my choice although DH probably wouldn't have wanted more. He wanted to make sure we could support how many kids we had and be able to provide for them and send them to college. So he was fine with less.

My not having kids had more to do with my problems having kids. I was an older infertility patient who had HORRIBLE pregnancies and ended up on bedrest the end of both of them. They even cardiac monitored me during labor and delivery because they considered me such a high risk. My doctor REALLY tried to convince me to get my tubes tied after the second and kept telling me it was too dangerous to have any more. She told me she did NOT want me getting pregnant again. Aside....my MIL even told me in her not so tactful way "I sure you hope you use birth control after this!!!" when I was pregnant with my second child.
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post #5 of 19
7/18/12 at 12:52pm

I always said that I wouldn't have any more after the age of 30. My youngest was born when I was 31. Dh had a vasectomy shortly after.

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post #6 of 19
7/18/12 at 1:03pm
When my normal birth suddenly turned to an emergency c-section and DS had to be revived. As they were rushing me to the operating room, I realized right then and there that I wouldn't do this again.
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post #7 of 19
7/18/12 at 1:12pm
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Originally Posted by mamax3 View Post

I always said that I wouldn't have any more after the age of 30. My youngest was born when I was 31. Dh had a vasectomy shortly after.


I said that too lol and I just had number three at 31 also

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post #8 of 19
7/18/12 at 2:02pm

I knew after the third one.  After the second one, there was always that questioning lingering, but my family felt complete after the last one.

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post #9 of 19
7/18/12 at 2:19pm

 8 months after DD was born. I decided i did not want to have anymore and the hubby agreed and went and got snipped.

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post #10 of 19
7/18/12 at 3:02pm
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Originally Posted by aliadam View Post

My not having more kids had nothing to do with me deciding to not have more.

This is us, too. After 7 years of infertility treatments and multiple miscarriages, I just couldn't do it anymore. My body was a mess. My mental state was a mess. Spiritually I was a mess. I was tired and worn out. After another failed attempt where the doctors wants once again to up the anti, we realized that they were never going to tell us to stop. It was up to say "enough". We decided to focus on finish raising the first round children. They needed us and were could design a different sort of life for ourselves.

 

Never did we realize that after we had decided and moved on, that our now DD would come into our lives.

 

In the end, having a child or not having a child was really never completely our choice.

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