When did you know you were done having kids? - Page 2

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Originally Posted by mamax3 

I always said that I wouldn't have any more after the age of 30. 

I said I wouldn't have any after 35, but that still leaves us time for one more.  We're going to wait and see how "good" this baby is before deciding if we can handle another.

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Originally Posted by Cookie2 
In the end, having a child or not having a child was really never completely our choice.

I totally agree with this.  Someone was joking with hubby about the tax benefits of having an end-of-the-year baby, but the fact of the matter is, most of us will take what we get when we get it.

I'm pregnant with #4 right now... a planned surprise.  I know that doesn't make sense but it's a long story.  DH and I talked about it last night and decided we're done.  When this baby is born, I'll have a 4 year old, 3 yo, 1 yo, and a newborn.  DONE. 

I could have had another one but now am glad I only have two.  I can give them quality time.

After having PIH and a grueling 2 day induction with pushing for 2.5 hours with ds, I said, "I can totally do this again".

After an easy pregnancy and a fast labor with just a few pushes with dd, I said, "I'm so happy I'm done".

I just knew and we made it permanent.

Friends told me I would get the twinge for another one when dd was getting bigger and others were pregnant and having babies, but I truly don't. I love that they have beautiful new babes, but I have no urge at all and am really enjoying having "kids". Dh and I often remark when we are driving home from a day of fun how much we love our 4-pack, it's the perfect size for us.

When M'ija and I both almost died during her birth. I decided then and there that I was never having a second. 

I thought we'd have three kids, but then I had a cancer scare that resulted in a hysterectomy.  We are very happy with 2 healthy kids now.
 

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Originally Posted by Diane 

I knew after the third one.  After the second one, there was always that questioning lingering, but my family felt complete after the last one.

 This was me, not to mention I was 38 when I had the third one, but I feel complete now :)

Well I Did want one more, but it wasn't in the plans.  I got married at 36, had ds at 38.  We waited until he was about 8 mos. and then I got pregnant again, mc'd at 10 weeks.  I had one mc previous to ds.  We thought we were done, so didn't try for a year.  Then decided we wanted to try again - But I wasn't having my period.  I knew I wasn't pregnant.  Turns out I was in full blown menopause!  I had chemo at 27 and they said that probably did it.

It took me many years to come to terms that ds was going to be an only child.  Sometimes I still grieve about that.  Everyone thinks when you go into menopause YAY no periods.  For me it wasn't like that.  I mourned the other child (ren) that I would never have.  I felt 'old' when I was only 39.  Dh is 9 years younger than me, so that made me feel Really old.  There is something so sexy about a woman that is fertile and can bear children. 

Anyway, that's when I knew we were done.