When you say payday loans, do you mean the 'Cash now!' loans with crazy crazy interest rates?
What was your reasoning to get a cash loan that you had to have that money? They are a horrible trap, you obviously didn't have money for something if you needed the cash but now you have your bills plus those loans. My first piece of advise would be to NEVER get one of those loans again. Never ever, I can't stress that enough.
What does your income and necessary expenditures like rent and food look like? Is your income high enough to cover those or not? If you took out those loans obviously this isn't the first month that things are tight or behind, so trying to pay things this month won't necessarily fix things for next month. And depending what you do this month you can set yourself even further behind the following month.
If you are using credit cards, STOP. If you are using them for points you absolutely have to be extremely disciplined in paying them off in full every single month. Do not carry a balance.
You have a car payment, is that car necessary? Could you trade it in for a car that you'll own outright and eliminate that payment?
You don't need cable television. Cable for internet possibly depending on circumstances but you can access it free at the library or with wifi.
If you're worried about being able to pay rent I'd say that probably constitutes not having money for kids to go to camp.
You don't have to do "major shopping" to have a large effect on your accounts, what about all those little purchases that add up. Fast food and take out is a problem a ton of us have (myself included). The fact that you don't know "how this happened" is where you need to take your first step. Pull out your reciepts or your bank statements online and look at where every penny is being spent. If you don't know where the leak is how can you plug it?
Some of us has posted pretty comprehensive budgets in the past, maybe we could help you out there or help you come up with one. Until then the only advise we can really offer is to not spend money on things you don't need, and suggestions on ways to save money on the things you do need. That's all just rainbows and sprinkles though unless it's being followed through on. We can all agree it is much easier to say what you are going to do than the actual doing.