WWYD?

I'd bow out on the excuse that I couldn't find a babysitter, but I fully admit doing so will automatically put me in the "out" group among these moms. But would I want to be in the "in group"? If I was looking to have friends, maybe I would. But I'd also have to admit that going and not drinking will pretty much guarantee that I'll be on the "out" anyway (BTDT). And we worry about the peer pressure our children face! This is definitely an adult peer pressure situation.
 

If I didn't want to go out to a night club or out drinking (which it sounds like is the intent over just a group of Moms getting together?) then I would say I don't want to go out in that setting. If you can't get a babysitter that alone is a valid reason to not be able to go.

 

If you want to go, try and get a babysitter and go. Just because they are drinking doesn't mean you have to, nor does it mean you are automatically going to be a debbie downer just because you're not. If you don't want to go then don't want to go/can't go then tell her the reason you can't make it and express your interest in going out for a lunch at a later date or something that you do feel comfortable with.

I would bow out and tell the truth. Night clubbing is not my thing and I don't have a babysitter anyway. Making a coffee date at another time is a good idea if these are moms you would like to get to know.

I do have a drink occasionally (one margarita about once per month), but going out to a nightclub is not my thing. I wouldn't enjoy it at all.

I would probably bow out too if I weren't drinking and maybe even if I were.  I don't like being around people who have had too much to drink.

 

If they are a group of women you would normally be interested in hanging out with, I would also say I couldn't get a sitter but would love to get together another time for coffee or tea.  It puts it back to her to see if she is interested in a friendship outside of drinking.

I also would bail. If these are moms I only know from my kids school then a bar or drinking to excess is not how I would want to grt to know them better.

I would probably say I can't get a babysitter and not care if that put me on the outs with that group. 

 

I actually like night clubbing and hanging out at bars with friends, my group of girlfriends from high school and I will still go to Vegas for a weekend and close down Studio 54 (at our ripe old age of 36!). What would turn me off about this situation is that she pressed you about drinking. I mean, who really cares? 

 

When l go out with my friends, some will drink a lot (though not so much anymore, got it out of our systems I guess), most will have a couple, and always at least one won't drink at all, it doesn't matter the reason. It definitely doesn't affect our good time.

 

I honestly wouldn't want to hang out with a bunch of women that assumed that drunk=fun, just not my type of girlfriends. Her saying that to you may actually be a good thing, now you don't have to spend an evening watching (and probably caring for) a bunch of wasted moms :)

I would bow out too, if it isn't something you are interest in, it won't really be fun for you anyway.  I like the ideas above about suggesting getting together for coffee some other time.

Well, you don't have a babysitter, so that is a good reason not to go. 

 

Do you want to go? Do you need a girls night out? Is this someone that you could see yourself becoming good friends with? When I go out with my girls we normally drink some margaritas, but we don't get drunk. We have never needed a cab, but at least she is being responsible in preparing.