We've talked about frugality burn-out. Do we ever talk about stay-at-home-mommy burn out?
Sometimes I feel like the last 1950's-style SAHM alive. So many women say that when their youngest goes off to school, they will go back to work at least part-time. I tried that - a couple of times - and my DD (now in 5th grade) does NOT do well when I work. Hubby is much happier, too, when I get chores done when he is away at work so we can "relax as a family" when he is home.
Sadly those "chores" DO NOT take up all my time and it is incredibly mind-numbing work. Trust me, there is no job satisfaction in having a sparkling clean toilet. I have tried improving my attitude, setting goals and setting up reward systems for myself and a few other motivational tricks and I have come to the conclusion that housework is deserving of its reputation. It is drudgery - pure and simple.
I love my DD, truly I do, but this summer has been unusually difficult. She is a good kid - that's not the problem. The problem is that with the move, we know no one here and we haven't had any fun because of a tight budget, hubby's odd work hours and exceptionally hot/humid weather. It has been a lonely, boring and dull summer.
I do have personal interests but I've let those slide because I have become resentful of interruptions from DD. I can get back to those activities when she is in school. Some of those interests were a source of income, too (mystery shopping, writing). While the actual money makes little difference to our over-all budget, there is something very satisfactory about the implicit "reward" that comes with getting paid.
By all accounts we're living the American dream - home, job, me a SAHM, good kid. I really shouldn't be complaining but I swear my mind is turning to mush! The last time I felt like this, DD was 3-yrs old. Back then I was dreading playing "color flash card" match game for the umpteenth time. Really, I know the color red; I didn't need to learn it all over again.But back then I figured that was life when you had a child under the age of 5. Now I almost wish for those days because they'd sometimes include a nap to help pass the time!
I swear, I understand why women shop for therapy.
I'm hoping to volunteer at DD's school (school starts on Tuesday). I swear if they don't call me, I'll be calling them to practically BEG them to let me volunteer. With DD in school, I'll also be looking to volunteer in a couple of other areas in the community. So I do have plans to change - and lots of hope for a better summer next year - but man-o-man, this summer has been hard.
Anyone else ever feel SAHM burn-out? I'm fully in the thick of it right now.