I am going to post this as a "what would you do" instead of saying which side I am leaning towards so I don't take opposing posts too personally! LOL
I have two older children, one out of the house and one that is going to be a senior in HS this year, as well as a 6 year old. We live where we do basically because my older two children have their father's family here. I do have some family here, and my husband's family is in another state, so basically the majority of my youngest child's family is out of state.
Someone said to me a LONG time ago, "kids move away from parents, parents don't move away from kids". Which I think about A LOT. (they weren't talking about me, they were talking about their parents who moved away and they were bitter about it)
I am torn because I would LOVE for my youngest to be closer to her cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.... BUT I would be moving away from my oldest two children. A few years ago, I had the mentality that once my older kids graduated HS we could live where ever, as they would go off on their own, now that I am "here" that is a lot harder to swallow that I thought! My husband has made a HUGE sacrifice (willingly and being supportive) to live away from his family, and I am grateful for that, but I think deep down he would like to be closer to his family, or have our DD closer to his family.
We have not made ANY decisions, but his current job would allow him to live almost anywhere, so it definitely gets me thinking about what I would do once my senior graduates next summer and goes off to college.
Of course there are SEVERAL family dynamics that go into play here that I can't begin to explain, on all three fronts, my ex-husband's family, my family, and my husband's family.
So, what do you think you would do?