WWYD: Cyber-bullying

Oh no, I step in immediately. A lot depends on who the bully(ies) is and how s/he knows my child.

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Originally Posted by Cookie2 

Oh no, I step in immediately.

What that looks like would vary depending upon the situation.  It may simply advising them as to how they should respond, it may be a phone call to a parent, or it may be a phone call and a visit to the authorities. But, my kiddos will never (think they) have to figure out how to deal with it alone.  I will be there, behind the scenes if nothing else.

I would talk to my child first and see what she wants me to do. If she wants to try and deal with it herself first I will keep a very very watchful eye on the situation. If the whole thing is way out of hand by the time I find out I will step in immediately. Kinda depends on the situation and how my child is affected by it as well as who the bullies are. 

I stepped in. I had dd unfriend her then we printed the conversation they had. She brought it into the principal's office the next day. They had a sit down and the girl apologized. She then tried to be friends with dd and she told her to leave her alone. It ended there.

If it was something that continued I would have a discussion with the parent. If it's on Facebook un friend the person. 

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Originally Posted by Addimom 

 

What that looks like would vary depending upon the situation.  It may simply advising them as to how they should respond, it may be a phone call to a parent, or it may be a phone call and a visit to the authorities. But, my kiddos will never (think they) have to figure out how to deal with it alone.  I will be there, behind the scenes if nothing else.

This.

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Originally Posted by Addimom 

 

What that looks like would vary depending upon the situation.  It may simply advising them as to how they should respond, it may be a phone call to a parent, or it may be a phone call and a visit to the authorities. But, my kiddos will never (think they) have to figure out how to deal with it alone.  I will be there, behind the scenes if nothing else.

 I agree with this as well. Bullying has always been around, this is just a different form of it. Some requires intervention and others require the child to handle it (with advice if wanted/offered). There are situations where a child should not or can't handle it alone, and there are situations where it could be a good learning opportunity for the child on how to handle or ignore something. I don't think parents should automatically take control or fix everything, that's not how life works and you're setting them up for a world of hurt when they are grown and they can't figure out what to do when someone is mean to them.