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Would you keep your child's secret from their dad if they requested it?

post #1 of 20
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Would you ever keep a child's secret from their dad if they requested it and didn't want him to know?

 

If it was a secret that would not bring them any harm would that change your decision?

post #2 of 20

No never did, if she was under the age of 19.  I felt like dd dad, had the right to know about the same stuff that I did. After all we both were responsible for her, just not in the same house.

 

Once she reach the age of 19, if she didn't want her dad to know something and told me not to tell, I didn't. After all she was an adult and it was her business who knew what about her.

post #3 of 20

I am just not not one to keep secrets from my dh!  I would hope ds would me know us well enough to know he are not doing to disown him no matter what he tells us.  If it is That bad chances are it's going to be on the news and dh would find out about it anyway.  I turn the tables and think how I'd feel about dh keeping something about ds from me because ds doesn't want me to know and I wouldn't feel too good about it.

 

I hope ds would know us better by then and figure anything he tells one the other is going to know.

post #4 of 20

Sure, if it was nothing too serious. I know my boys have told dh things and asked him not to tell me. I trust his judgement and vice versa. 

post #5 of 20

No. I don't want them thinking it's ok to hide the truth or lie, which is what you are essentially doing if you keep things from the other parent on their behalf.

post #6 of 20

No - if they are even asking, that spells trouble. I took the kids to the pool one day and we left after 10 minutes because M was misbehaving.  She begged me not to tell Daddy, but he was working at home and obviously knew we hadn't been gone long.  

post #7 of 20

It depends what it is.  Having girls, there are just some things that Dh just doesn't understand and would not really care about.  If I feel that he needs to know, I will tell the girls that I just can't keep that from him.  I'm pretty sure that there are things that Dh knows that I don't.  It's not like he or I are deliberately keeping secrets.  Sometimes with life, we just forget to mention it because it wasn't that important.

post #8 of 20
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Originally Posted by swishina View Post

No - if they are even asking, that spells trouble.

Not in every situation. There may be things that my boys are more comfortable discussing with their dad and might be embarrassed for me to know. That doesn't mean they're trying to get away with something. 

post #9 of 20

Yes, and I have.  As long as I have handled it already and there is really no reason for him to know.  There have been a couple private "girly" issues with my daughter that she has requested my secrecy on.   Not because she thought she would get in trouble, but rather out of embarrassment.  I think it's OK.  

post #10 of 20
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Originally Posted by Kim View Post

Yes, and I have.  As long as I have handled it already and there is really no reason for him to know.  There have been a couple private "girly" issues with my daughter that she has requested my secrecy on.   Not because she thought she would get in trouble, but rather out of embarrassment.  I think it's OK.  

I have had this with dd as well.  she was very embarrassed about something she was told about sex.....  

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