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post #11 of 18

I hope they can either get the kid quiet quickly, or remove him from the store/restaurant/wherever.  My son rarely threw tantrums (I was lucky!), but the one time I can remember him doing it, I took him outside immediately, no one else should have to listen to that.  Found out later he would have those moments at school sometimes and had to talk to him about it.  Turns out he was so over stimulated he would break down, so letting him go out in the hall was the best thing for everyone.  I saw one kid go nuts at checkout right when his mom was paying, threw himself on the floor and everything (because he didn't get a candy bar).  The mom told him to get up and he wouldn't, so she grabbed his arms and tried to make him stand, he just flopped himself around and screamed louder.  So she dragged him out of the store, to lots and lots of applause.  I'm sure she was frustrated and embarrassed, but instead of people gripping about the bratty kid, they were talking about how they appreciated how she handled it.

 

My brother's kids were horrible, even when they were 11 and 9 :(  One time they whined so much and so loud when we went out to breakfast, *I* had to leave the restaurant because I couldn't handle it.  SIL was doing nothing about it and my brother had "not been allowed" to do anything for so long, he just sat there too.  It wasn't until my niece was around 12 that he'd had enough and finally started "getting on her" when she behaved like that.

post #12 of 18
I don't do anything, and just move on. I've seen other moms or people try to talk to the kid throwing the tantrum, and that bothers me. Let me parent be! It seems as though they feel that they will be the driving force that will make these kids shut up. Every time I've seen it, the kids just scream louder and become more annoying.
post #13 of 18

I forgot about a year ago a few of us got together for lunch. One of my friend's mom was dying and she was leaning on us for emotional support. At the next table was a screaming 4 year old (I know the mom from our old swim team). She screamed because she didn't like what she got to eat. Mom caved and ordered something else. Kid screamed and threw herself down on the ground when she didn't like that either. The mom was with two other women and they just ignored her. At my table we couldn't even hear each other talk. Literally that screaming at the top of her lungs went on for 30 minutes. I finally said to them "ok enough is enough. Everyone in this restaurant is sick and tired of listening to your kid scream. There is no reason for that. Please take her to  your car." They left. If I can't carry on a conversation at a table right next to your screaming child you need to go. 

post #14 of 18
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I forgot about a year ago a few of us got together for lunch. One of my friend's mom was dying and she was leaning on us for emotional support. At the next table was a screaming 4 year old (I know the mom from our old swim team). She screamed because she didn't like what she got to eat. Mom caved and ordered something else. Kid screamed and threw herself down on the ground when she didn't like that either. The mom was with two other women and they just ignored her. At my table we couldn't even hear each other talk. Literally that screaming at the top of her lungs went on for 30 minutes. I finally said to them "ok enough is enough. Everyone in this restaurant is sick and tired of listening to your kid scream. There is no reason for that. Please take her to  your car." They left. If I can't carry on a conversation at a table right next to your screaming child you need to go. 

That's ridiculous. I will never understand people who think they and their child(ren) have a right to impose on others with their bad behavior. I would have taken my child out if they didn't calm down in just a minute or two. It's so rude to ruin the good time of everyone around you just so you can teach little Susie Q a lesson. I frankly can't understand why her two dining companions put up with it that long. I wouldn't have. I would have asked the server to box my meal and left and reminded myself to never eat with that woman and her child again. Can you tell this is an issue that bugs me? ROTF.gif
post #15 of 18

I usually don't say anything to the mom realizing she probably has her hands full already unless there is abuse going on.  I do think its totally rude for a child to be acting/screaming like a loon and them doing nothing, but I still mind my own business as I'm not confrontational like that.  Thankfully, my children rarely got like that and if there was a tantrum that I could see was not going to end in a minute or two we were outta there quick.  I think that's why they did it so rarely as they did not get away with it.
 

post #16 of 18

Look at the kid, shake my head and walk off.

post #17 of 18
Most if the time I just think 'glad those days are over'. I was lucky though because ds didn't do it often at all, but i also kept distracting toys & things with us, made sure I carried snacks and water, and was home at nap times.

I suppose Disneyland is different, but a store or public place we could leave in a hurry before it escalated. I know there are reasons this always can't be done, but I never inflicted others with my child's tantrum.

Or other times I say in my head 'For Gods sake take them home!" I work at a Babies R Us and its appalling to me how some parents will just stroll around with a screaming toddler for sometimes an hour. Like I said I would not inflict that on anyone else but a lot of parents have a i don't give a *hit attitude.
Edited by Stormy8 - 3/31/13 at 10:49pm
post #18 of 18

If it is at a store and the parent is acting like they are aware of the tantrum and are handling it, it doesn't bother me.  Usually the thing that bothers me is when parents let their kids run in a store or scream/shriek because they are wound up, not screaming because they are upset. 

 

In a restaurant, it's a bit different to me because while you might have to take your kid grocery shopping with you, you usually don't have to go out to eat with your kid.  My reaction would depend on the situation and the restaurant. If it's clear that this is just dinner and not celebrating something special and the screaming keeps going on, then I have to wonder about why they don't leave... or why go out to eat if your child tends to have tantrums.  Or don't go to sit down restaurants that take a while to serve food. When my kids were very little, we never went out to eat unless we had to (family event).  When DH and I go out to eat, we will usually ask to sit in the bar area if the restaurant is one that attracts families.  We don't go out to eat very often at all, so when I do, I don't want to listen to kids shrieking or screaming. 

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