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skip wedding, go to reception...is it OK?

post #1 of 27
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Is it in poor taste to only go to a reception and skip the wedding?

Well, proper or not, DH decided that we will ONLY be going to the reception.

The wedding is an extra 45minutes further that the reception site, so that would mean another 1 1/2 hours more driving for us on top of the already 5+ we will drive to just the reception. Plus, DH reminded me that DS will have a football game that day that my Mom could not manage taking all the boys too. So, we may have to deal with fall-out from this, but what's new.

I am thinking about looking for a wedding album (since I know the cousin does not scrapbook) that they can just sstick their pictures into. I will wait until Hobby Lobby has the 1/2 off coupon!
post #2 of 27
not sure if I would say poor taste. IMO the wedding is the important thing not the reception. I feel that you get to go to the reception as a gift for going to the wedding- make sense?
Do people skip the wedding - yes. Are they close friends? Is there a good reason not to go? All these things and others play a part in the decsion.
post #3 of 27
Just happen to stumble upon your other post.
IMO- yes it would be rude to skip the wedding. Go to the wedding and skip the reception. You say the kids can go to the wedding then go to that and leave. It will also save in a hotel for the night- maybe even an outfit as it does not have to be that fancy for the wedding.
post #4 of 27
IMO it really depends on how close you are to the couple. I recently got married and I was very hurt by some of my close friends who decided to skip the ceremony and just go to the reception. Now of course the other people who are friends of friends or people the parents invite or something like that, I really didn't care about. It's just about sharing that very special moment with those close to you.
post #5 of 27
It depends on your relationship to the bride/groom. I go to a lot of weddings - just 3 this past year. It is pretty normal to see maybe up to 2x the number of people at the reception than at the wedding. Usually close family/friends are at the wedding, and then some of the extended family who might have travelled in for it. But it is so commonplace that I wouldn't think twice about it unless it was a good friend or immediate family. Sometimes the wedding is much earlier in the day than the reception & it conflicts w/ someone's work schedule. Sometimes the wedding is on one side of town & the reception on the other, and you just can't manage both. So I wouldn't sweat it. I normally go to both but there have been a few times where all I could manage was the reception.
post #6 of 27
If I can't make the wedding I Never Just Go to the Reception


My Views are Probably Old fashioned -
Its Just always been a big No no with My Family so I wouldn't even think to do it.
post #7 of 27
I am weird, I avoid weddings and receptions at all cost.
post #8 of 27
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Originally Posted by Happymom View Post

I am weird, I avoid weddings and receptions at all cost.



Is there a reason you don't want to go to the wedding? Sometimes people don't want children at the wedding ceremony so is that the case? Are they friends or family getting married?
post #9 of 27
From where I'm from it's normal to skip the wedding and go to the Reception. (Unless close family or close friends)

But I read your other post also and around here Children are always invited. So that in itself would be a big fat no to me. I would just send a Wedding card and your regrets, maybe a check for cash or a gift card to somewhere nice.

Since you are trying to save money right now the cost of a sitter, travel, hotel stay, new clothing....just too much for someone you are not too close too.
post #10 of 27
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Is there a reason you don't want to go to the wedding? Sometimes people don't want children at the wedding ceremony so is that the case? Are they friends or family getting married?


I just hate them! I guess I am not one for social event really at all, and I see weddings and receptions as a huge waste of money (okay, I am no romantic either!) I just think of all the practical things that people could be doing with that money. And no, I did not have a big wedding. DH and I got married at a wedding chapel with 6 people in attendance and my mil took us out to eat after at a buffet.
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