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Do all teenagers have a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality??

post #1 of 15
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My teenage dd (yes, the one I was just bragging on last wk ) is like two different people. Around our house, she stays in her room, gets annoyed when asked generally pleasant conversational questions, is the grumpiest person on the planet in the mornings, and just frankly sometimes I don't like being around her all that much. My dh & ds left early this morning and I actually thought "Oh no, don't leave me alone here with Ms. Grumpy Butt"!!!! But yet last night she was on the phone with some friends and was laughing and giggling and seemed like the most pleasant person. I thought I would like to see that person too! But that person isn't in our household very often.

So I was just wondering if all teenagers are Jekyll and Hyde? Or are all teenage girls this way? Or have I just inadvertently raised a prima donna monster?????
post #2 of 15
YES! I mainly see Mr. Hyde. Others get to see Dr. Jekyll (for the most part). Aren't teenage girls FUN???? I hope the aliens return my daughter from wherever they've taken her before she turns 25, lol.
post #3 of 15
My theory is it is those d@mned hormones. The same growth hormones that give us the 'terrible twos' are coursing through her body right now. I pretty much handle the situation the same way as when the kid was 2 - temper tantrums aren't tolerated, she is to mind her manners, and use some self control (hers and mine). I also don't take it personally!

Also, I read a book a while back that had the theory that kids respond to society's expectations of what a teenager should act like. If they receive the message from music, TV and movies that teenagers are moody, that's how they will act. Kids who are homeschooled or otherwise insulated from those influences typically have different behaviors. It is all about expectations, again, hers AND OURS. If we write off their moody behavior as 'oh, that's just how teenagers act' then we excuse ourselves from addressing any problems that might be happening. If we saw an adult acting the same way we might pounce on the behavior to see if there was something horribly wrong. Are they sick? Doing drugs / alcohol? Having a personal problem? etc...
post #4 of 15
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Originally Posted by aliadam View Post

My teenage dd (yes, the one I was just bragging on last wk ) is like two different people. Around our house, she stays in her room, gets annoyed when asked generally pleasant conversational questions, is the grumpiest person on the planet in the mornings, and just frankly sometimes I don't like being around her all that much. My dh & ds left early this morning and I actually thought "Oh no, don't leave me alone here with Ms. Grumpy Butt"!!!! But yet last night she was on the phone with some friends and was laughing and giggling and seemed like the most pleasant person. I thought I would like to see that person too! But that person isn't in our household very often.

So I was just wondering if all teenagers are Jekyll and Hyde? Or are all teenage girls this way? Or have I just inadvertently raised a prima donna monster?????

i read your post and thought u were referring to my 17 dsd!!!!! she is 95% of the time a WITCH!!!! she stays in her room gets very annoyed at my 7 yr old dd, also at her brothers , at my dh also!!!! i try not to associate w/her when she is like that. then 5% of the time she is miss hi!! and nice ans overly sweet to all of us. what the H*LL!!! i thought it was only her and that maybe she needs some happy pills or an antidepressant or anti anxiety med ot somethin????
post #5 of 15
Its not just girls. Boys are pretty bad to. Every so often ds is as sweet as pie and it really catches me of guard.

When I see people out and about they say what a nice son I have. He is so sweet. Boy I wish he would be that way at home. It doesn't shock me anymore when they say that. But I used to be speechless when they would say this cause I thought they were talking about the wrong boy!
post #6 of 15
Wow are you talking about my 17yo little sister?!?!?!?!? My sis is just like this and then some she hides in her room doesnt socialize with us if we ask her to do anything you name it from as simple of a task to something hard she categorically refuses but absolutely wants the world given to her on a silver platter. We have been telling my mom for years that she has rasied a LAZY WITCH. She gets angry and moody over nothing dont bother talking to her cause all she will give you is attitude. So you are deffinately not alone and as my mom keeps saying only a couple more months til she is 18 and not her responsibility anymore and the real world will knock her on her butt. She will no longer have a maid a built in atm machine a car nothing. So try to keep your spirits up and my prayers go out to all the moms of teenagers for I will be there to my oldest is 12 and shes already puching buttons.
post #7 of 15
YES! They are all like that I think. My mom said she spent our teenage years pretty much not liking us - she said "I loved you, but I didn't like you!!". Well said. She had two teenage daughters at the time! I'll have to remember that 15 years from now when I'm going through the same thing!
post #8 of 15
wait wait wait.. you mean yours didn't start till they were teenagers.. Mine is 6 and I swear I'm not going to make it through her teenage years... uuggghhh

And yes I will have to hormonal teenage girls at the same time.. Calgon take me away!
post #9 of 15
Yes, they are all that way!!! I don't know about boys, because so far I only have pre-teen and younger boys, but both my girls were/are that way!
post #10 of 15
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Well I "guess" it makes me happy to know I'm not alone. I was beginning to wonder if maybe I'd done something wrong to raise a child who is grumpy or ignores her own family, but then is as sweet as pie and giggling with her friends. I was thinking "are we really THAT bad?" Don't get me wrong...I love her to death and am very proud of her, but I think miasmama said it best with, "I may love her, but not like her".
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