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Gifts: How much should the grandparents spend?

Poll Results: How much do you want grandparents to spend on gifts?

Poll expired: Sep 1, 2008  
  • 10% (2)
    Much less than the parents spend?
  • 15% (3)
    A little less than the parents spend?
  • 5% (1)
    About the same amount that the parents spend?
  • 0% (0)
    A little more than the parents spend?
  • 10% (2)
    A lot more than the parents spend?
  • 60% (12)
    Other - please comment
20 Total Votes  
post #1 of 17
Thread Starter 
When it comes to grandma and grandpa, how much would you like them to spend on your child for birthday gifts?
post #2 of 17
This is a hard one for us. Our parents have a budget of $100 a kid for Christmas and Birthdays. Our budget is $20 a kid. Yes, they have way more money than we do and yes they give to a lot less people, but it does occasionally make me feel just a little bit sad that our gifts to our kids pale in comparison to what the grandparents give them.

Oops I answered wrong. I posted 'a lot more' thinking the question asked what they did not what I would like them to do. Oops.
post #3 of 17
I feel like it depends on the situation of each family. IMO - they should spend as much or a little as they see fit. It's their grandchild... not everyones financial situation is the same. My InLaws can afford to spend a lot... they only have 1 grandchild. My parents can hardly afford anything. They have 6 grandchildren & my father still has 2 school age children at home.
post #4 of 17
I think whatever they feel comfortable about spending. I would like them to ask me if it is ok if Noah has certain things. I don't wanna feel upstaged but usally my dad is a money giver even though he did get noah some really great Christmas presents!
post #5 of 17
I voted other because I have a problem with the word should. I don't think the grandparents are obligated to spend a certain amount or buy certain things. I believe they should spend what they want. In our case, our parents never spent as much as we did, although both sets were generous. But I would have never, never, never in a million years told them they SHOULD spend more on my children. I believe if people consider themselves responsible enough to raise a child, they should also consider themselves responsible to provide for the child. So there is no amount the grandparents SHOULD spend.
post #6 of 17
Quote:
Originally Posted by aliadam View Post

I voted other because I have a problem with the word should. I don't think the grandparents are obligated to spend a certain amount or buy certain things. I believe they should spend what they want. In our case, our parents never spent as much as we did, although both sets were generous. But I would have never, never, never in a million years told them they SHOULD spend more on my children. I believe if people consider themselves responsible enough to raise a child, they should also consider themselves responsible to provide for the child. So there is no amount the grandparents SHOULD spend.

I have to agree with this as well. It's their money and their budget. They can spend whatever they like. We have asked occasionally to keep the quantity down (there just isn't the room in our small house) but have never commented on how much they spend.
post #7 of 17
Thread Starter 
I ask because I'm thinking of upping the amount we spend on each grandchild. As they grow older, it is getting harder to find gifts at the price point we've been using. In a couple of cases, we have grandchildren who are saving their money and buying things for themselves that are at a price point that is much higher than we would spend. That makes it sort of difficult to think of a good gift, ya know.

I'm not asking 'should' as in demanding a gift or demanding that the grandparents spend a certain amount. Space was limited. All I'm asking is, if you had your way, how much would the grandparents to your children spend on your child? Do you like to be the primary gift giver / provider? Do you appreciate that the grandparents are in a position to significantly help out with big ticket purchases?
post #8 of 17
I don't care how much they spend. If they can get my child a present that I couldn't afford great. If they hardly have enough to get more than a card, it doesn't matter, my kids will still get a present. I don't know, but I guess my inlaws spend about 20-40 dollars for the kids birthdays. My mom gets what she can afford at the time, wich is usually around 20 dollars. But she bought my oldest and ipod one year.
post #9 of 17
You know what? I'm just happy that they love my kids enough to do anything...I am not going to tell them what they should or shouldn't spend, if they have the money and they want to spend it, then wonderful, if they don't have the money and do something small, that's equally as wonderful
post #10 of 17
As far as I'm concerned that don't have to spend any money on my kids. And I would never presume to expect anyone to spend any amount on them. What they choose to give my kids is just fine with me as long as it is given with love.
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