I read your first post as she wanted you to get him to go to sleep on his own before he goes to daycare and THEY let him cry it out... You would be hard-pressed to find a daycare to hold a child until he is asleep. I worked in one in the baby room at one time and quit because they actually got onto me for holding the babies! I hope that you can get him to learn how to console himself before the big transition to daycare!