First of all being a stay at home mom is work! Hard work! My husband took a 2nd job thinking it would be part time. They are so busy that he is working 2 full time jobs. His main one ( the one with insurance, retirement etc ) at night and the other one during the day. So, I have decided to leave my full time job because the house looked like a bomb went off in it. (His pays more) I have been cutting my hours until my final day and I will tell you I am way more tired on my days off when I am at home doing housework then on the days that I am at my job. Frankly it sucks!
I did not realize how much my dh did. He always had the kitchen clean, the living room straightened, a load of laundry in and in 16 years I have NEVER taken out the garbage.
It takes me twice as long to do the kitchen as it did him. I am trying to figure out how he did it.
As far as cooking goes, we were both the youngest with 6 years between me and my sister and 12 years between my dh and his nearest sibling. Neither of us had any really cooking experience. I have to say we ate out alot the first few years, After kids I did my best to figure out decent meals. Now I love to cook, It is the figuring out what to eat that drives me crazy. My dh is not a gourmet cook, but he can make many pasta dishes, loves to barbeque and makes the best homemade belgian waffles with all the pork fat you can eat!
My dh's mom worked, so he was use to having to fend for himself. Even if it was a burger or Mac n Cheese.This past Saturday evening after working 2 back to back shifts, he came in and ask if I needed any help while I was cooking.
You made me realize how blessed I am. He knew when he fell in love with me that I was not the "serve my man" type. He told me if he wanted a maid or a cook he'd hire one. He wanted a someone to love and grow old with.
I am with the others that posted. I would let him starve. I mean really! That is just taking advantage of you. If you allow him to be this way now, What is going to happen in 20 years? My grandmother was that kind of wife and her health suffered. It was amazing what my grandfather was capable of doing for himself when she passed away.
Marriage is a partnership. If you feel guilty becuase you are a stay at home mom. Then clock in and clock out after 8 hours. And tell him my shift is over!
This is exactly why I am teaching my son to cook and do laundry, I never want my son to be a burden or act like a spoil child to his wife. I want my future daughter in law to love me! Good Luck to you sweetie you are going to need it.
P.S. If it is about not being manly. My dh is 6'4 - 235 a former bouncer, semi pro football player and weightlifter. He drives a truck, wears cowboy boots, can handle a shotgun and looks alot like Toby Keith. He's a manly man ( one who changed alot of diapers too! )