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post #21 of 49
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Originally Posted by Bucsnpats View Post

I probably shouldn't have gotten into this thread. I really don't want to debate. I know that I am the minority when it comes to these issues.

I just think that all families and situations are different, and to make ALL woman/teen/parent follow the same rule, just isn't right.

Again, I will say that I think the teen ultimately should feel comfortable with going to thier parents without being pressured to do so.

I also think that Desertmom and Calimari explained my thoughts WAY better than I did. I totally agree with what they posted in this thread.


I am not looking for a debate, I am just asking a question that you might not have thought of as abortion tends to tug at peoples emotions and elicit responses based on emotions rather than looking at the whole picture.
post #22 of 49
As long as a child is underage, as long as I am responsible for their actions, then I should be consulted before any major decision in their life is made. So yes, the parents of any child under 18 should be notified before their child gets an abortion.
post #23 of 49
Does anyone know the stats as to what the percentage of abortions are for underage kids vs. adults? I'm just wondering if we're talking about, say, 10% of abortions being for underage girls vs. 90%. People I personally know who got abortions were adults with other children trapped in an abusive marriage and trying to get out of it. Bringing another child in to it was out of the question. I know some women on this board have had abortions, but I do not know if they were underage and got them on their own, or if they went with a parent, or if they were over 18. I'm just wondering how big the parental consent issue is, in terms of numbers.
post #24 of 49
The one person I know very well who had an elective abortion had it at 19, and there would have been no way to have had her parents informed, as she had left home at 15 and had no contact with them, no did she want contact (abusive family). If she had gotten pregnant say, 18 months earlier at 17, then what?

As an aside, her boyfriend at the time insisted on it, and she agreed, but I do have to say it has a been a choice she has regretted for the rest of her life. FWIW, she also had an IUD at the time, so that may have been part of the decision.

There is just too much gray to be able to make a law, I think. You can't regulate every aspect and situation.
post #25 of 49
As the mother of 2 teen girls and another just months away from being a teen. My answer is NO, parents should not have to be informed for 15-16 yrs old and up. But then on the other hand, the younger they are, the more afraid they are of telling their parents.

My girls are very open with me, and I hey would tell me in a heartbeat. But if they decided that maybe I would freak out, and made that decision on their own, I would not have a problem with it. They are the ones that would have to deal with the repercussions for the rest of their lives. Only they can make that decision. Even at 15, a girl can decide that she does not want to deal with a child for the rest of her life. Very few teen mothers continue their education beyond high school and that is if they even make it through high school.

Now while I do believe that minors should be entitled to privacy where abortion is concerned. I hope and pray that my girls never do it. I would be very sad if they chose to have an abortion thus killing my grandchild.

I would much rather have my daughter have a medical procedure in a sterile environment that give birth in a bathroom and dispose of the baby and thus face criminal charges. I also think abortion should be free for minors.

JMO
post #26 of 49
Free abortion for minors? OMG I better run from this thread!

My answer is YES, dang straight you tell your parents. If you are woman enough to get pregnant, you are woman enough to face your parents and tell them you are pregnant. You are also woman enough to take care of your child. You don't get to commit murder out of the sake of convenience.
post #27 of 49
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Originally Posted by crankymom View Post

I also think abortion should be free for minors.

JMO

Who do you think should pay for them?
post #28 of 49
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Originally Posted by crankymom View Post

As the mother of 2 teen girls and another just months away from being a teen. My answer is NO, parents should not have to be informed for 15-16 yrs old and up. But then on the other hand, the younger they are, the more afraid they are of telling their parents.

My girls are very open with me, and I hey would tell me in a heartbeat. But if they decided that maybe I would freak out, and made that decision on their own, I would not have a problem with it. They are the ones that would have to deal with the repercussions for the rest of their lives. Only they can make that decision. Even at 15, a girl can decide that she does not want to deal with a child for the rest of her life. Very few teen mothers continue their education beyond high school and that is if they even make it through high school.

Now while I do believe that minors should be entitled to privacy where abortion is concerned. I hope and pray that my girls never do it. I would be very sad if they chose to have an abortion thus killing my grandchild.

I would much rather have my daughter have a medical procedure in a sterile environment that give birth in a bathroom and dispose of the baby and thus face criminal charges. I also think abortion should be free for minors.

JMO

Adoption is a great option for both a young mother and her child. And why should abortions be free for minors and who will pay for them?
post #29 of 49
Yes, I do think teens should have to get the parents permission.

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My answer is YES, dang straight you tell your parents. If you are woman enough to get pregnant, you are woman enough to face your parents and tell them you are pregnant. You are also woman enough to take care of your child. You don't get to commit murder out of the sake of convenience.

I totally agree.
post #30 of 49
Casey, Cindy and Caylee Anthony come to mind here.

Didn't Cindy force Casey to HAVE the baby???? And look how that situation has turned out.

Sometimes parents don't know what is right either. And if I remember correctly Casey didn't want an abortion either, she wanted to give the baby up for adoption.

Casey was forced into a lifestyle that she didn't want nor was ready for.

Back to the thread....It is sad that we are even talking about someone else's child, and judging what that family should or shouldn't be doing. None of our business really. "WE" need to focus on our own families.
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