There are certain times of year when living on a budget is harder
than usual, and my children's birthdays used to rank right at the top of
the list. Birthdays are supposed to be special, and for much of my life,
special has meant expensive. When my oldest daughter had her first
birthday, my husband and I spared no expense to make her birthday party
special, right down to the matching cups, plates, and birthday hats! Of
course, she was sleepy, irritable, and more than a little overwhelmed by
it all. When my second daughter's first birthday rolled around, we were
a one-income family struggling to feed ourselves everyday, let alone
everyone we knew. But this was our baby's first birthday, so we pulled
out the credit cards and had our usual blast!
Well a lot has changed since
those first birthday parties. Our financial IQ has gone up and the size
of the birthday bashes has gone down. Surprisingly, scaling back our
birthday celebrations has made them more enjoyable by putting the focus
back where it was supposed to be all along and that is on our children.
Now my husband and I can actually enjoy our kids' birthdays instead of
frantically running around trying to buy food and decorations for fifty
of our "closest" friends and family members. (And we also
enjoy not getting those dreaded "party charges" on the
following month's credit card statement!) Here are some ideas to make
your child's birthday more special, not just more expensive.
Have a cake cutting
.
Our family first tried this on my oldest daughter's second birthday.
It was a big hit! Invite everyone over for cake and ice cream, and
have onlycake and ice cream. If your guests know what you
are serving, they can eat before they come. The party goes by much
quicker (no waiting forever to cut the cake), and the cake and ice
cream are all most kids want anyway.
Have a private party.
Private as in only the people who live in your house. This has
become our personal favorite. We buy a small, decorated one layer
cake from the grocery store for less than $5. We buy party hats and
blowers. We sing happy birthday, blow out the candles, and open the
presents! Of course, you could make it even more affordable and fun
by baking your own cake.
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Have a slumber party.
Another variation on the private party idea is a slumber party. How
often does your entire family get together in one room, and stay up
all night eating, laughing, and talking? Kids love to stay up late,
so pop in a movie, pop up some popcorn, and party into the wee hours
of the morning!
Plan a family field trip.
If your child has a favorite place like the zoo or skating rink,
plan a trip for their birthday. If you really want to go all out,
plan a trip to a nearby theme park. You could even invite one of
your child's friends to tag along.
Send birthday
announcements. Many friends and relatives don't remember your
child's birthday until they get a party invitation in the mail. Make
cute cards announcing your child's birthday and include a recent
photo of them. Keep one for yourself as a special memento of your
child's birthday. This is also a great way to distribute those
school day pictures that you keep forgetting to give out!
Give the gift of time
.
Nothing will make your child feel more special than your undivided
attention. From sunrise to sundown, spend an entire day with your
child doing the things they like to do. Eat their favorite
breakfast, play with their favorite toys, watch their favorite
video, and even take a nap with them!
There's no place like -
hotel!
Now this is certainly not the most affordable option, but
for older kids, this can be a blast! Go to a nice, local hotel
(preferably with a pool) and spend a mini-vacation enjoying your
child's birthday. Depending on the day of the week and time of year,
you may find a pretty good rate. And lots of places include
breakfast in their room rate.
And if all else fails…
Have a birthday party!
Sometimes there is nothing like a good old-fashioned birthday party.
But the truth is, it doesn't have to be so expensive. If you are
smart, you can cut back on the decorations (no matching cups and
plates), shrink the menu (hot dogs and chips anyone?), and have a
great time! Check out the Kid's Domain at
www.kidsdomain.com/holiday/birthday/party.html
for party games and printable items from invitations to party hats
and Boardman's Birthday Party Ideas at
www.boardmanweb.com/party/
for lots of great (and inexpensive) party themes, decoration ideas,
and games.
Birthdays are special because they are a celebration of the greatest
gift you will ever receive, which is your child. Remember, birthdays are
supposed to be fun, not stressful. If your child is old enough, ask them
what they would like to do for their birthday. The answer may pleasantly
surprise you! Whatever you do to celebrate, you can't go wrong if you
keep the focus on spending time with your child instead of spending
money on decorations. So relax and put the "happy" back in
your child's birthday. You'll be glad you did!
