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Hip Mom Rule
#9: Change it Up ©
Heidi A. Burns
Children and adults alike thrive on
routine. My kids know that after lunch, it is
naptime. I know that after lunch it is naptime. In
some ways, we both look forward to this quiet time
in our house and we seldom fight over it because it
is just the way the day goes.
Routines that work are seldom tinkered with. I play
with the kids in the morning. I work from home in
the afternoons while they sleep. We go to the park
or to the library when they wake up from their naps.
Dad gets home. We play outside. We eat supper. We
pick up. We go to bed. There are variations of sorts
every day, but mostly we stick to our routine.
Even though I have moved to a new state since my
second child was born, the furniture layout has
remained mostly the same, too. When our first son
started walking, we changed the furniture around to
accommodate his newfound talent (and to protect some
of our more-loved possessions). Three years later in
a new house, the floor plan was still in place,
accommodating another walker, protecting the same
loved possessions. There was no real need to change
it, so we didn't. I even hung the pictures in the
same pattern as they had been in our previous home.
Then one day, as my kids and I were looking at
pictures of the last three years of our lives, I
realized that I had stayed much the same, too. When
Joe was born, I had gone for the ever-important new
mom makeover. I changed my hairstyle to meet the
needs of my new, busier lifestyle. And that was the
last time I had bothered to update my look. I had
kept up well enough with new clothing styles, but
the me of three years ago and the me of today were
distressingly the same. Same makeup, same hairstyle,
same routine for getting ready in the morning. No
wonder I was bored as of late! I was so used to my
routine that I was routining the joy out of daily
life.
Never one to take such a self-revelation lightly, I
started combing through magazines and searching
online for a new hairstyle that would still fit my
hip mom lifestyle but would breathe some new life
into my look. Then I chopped off six inches of hair.
"Cut quickly before I change my mind," I told the
stylist.
When I came home from the salon, I changed up the
furniture in the living room and in the office. Not
a major home makeover, but enough to alter the
physical landscape of my life. I even switched up
the routine for my boys. What a difference little
changes can make in our outlook on life. They have
something different to look forward to and I have a
new perspective and a fabulously hip haircut.
About the Author: Heidi
Burns is a freelance writer, editor, and
adjunct faculty member. She earned an M.A.
from Iowa State University in 2002 and has
since married, lived in three states, had
two children, and adjuncted for four
different colleges. Free time is elusive to
her, but if she ever did find a spare
moment, she would most likely take a long,
uninterrupted nap. For more information and
details, please
contact
Heidi A. Burns.
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